Self Care IRL

<p>Welcome to Self Care IRL, a brave space for you to create better wellness experiences. Join me, Ty Alexander, wellness blogger and best selling author of "<a href="https://amzn.to/3lGxrbj"><strong><em>Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died</em></strong></a>", as I explore strategies and ideas for becoming your best self. This podcast will inspire you to take life by the horns and enjoy the ride despite your traumas or circumstances.</p><p><br></p><p>Topics include relationships (especially the one with self), transitions, inner growth, life purpose, spirituality, and whatever else the world throws our way. Sharing the most intimate parts of myself with you...this is Self Care IRL, a podcast by Ty Alexander.</p><p><br></p><p>Use the hashtag #SelfCareIRL to chat about each episode on the Innanets!</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Website: </strong><a href="http://selfcareirl.com"><strong>http://selfcareirl.com</strong></a><strong> </strong></p><p><strong>IG: </strong><a href="http://instagram.com/SelfCareIRL"><strong>@SelfCareIRL</strong></a><strong> & </strong><a href="http://instagram.com/TyAlexander"><strong>@TyAlexander</strong></a></p>

111. A Brutally Honest Guide For People Who Feel Like They're Faking It

In this episode, you and I will discuss what it really feels like to look "successful" on the outside while battling imposter syndrome and anxiety on the inside. Through vulnerable conversations and ten practical strategies, we'll explore how to manage the weight of success when your brain keeps telling you you're a fraud. This isn't another toxic positivity pep talk – it's real talk about mental health, success, and learning to trust your journey, even when you're not sure you deserve to be here. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

11-18
19:47

110. Why Being Nice Is Not Your Superpower

Today, we're going to have a real conversation about breaking free from these patterns that our mothers and grandmothers before us struggled with too. By the end of this episode, you'll have practical ways to set boundaries without guilt, specific phrases to use when you need to say no (and mean it), and most importantly, permission to put yourself first. Because contrary to what society might have told us, your well-being is not up for negotiation. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

10-28
23:18

109. Click here if you're always the one apologizing in your friendships

Today's episode is all about knowing when to fight for a friendship and when to love yourself enough to walk away. We're talking toxic dynamics, accountability (or the lack thereof), and how to know if your bestie is still your bestie or if they've become your frenemy. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

10-16
17:09

108. High-Maintenance vs. Low-Maintenance Friendships: What’s the Difference?

Friendship is a beautiful thing, but let’s be real—some friendships can be more work than others. We’ve all had those friends who need constant check-ins, and then there are the ones you don’t talk to for weeks (or months) and pick up right where you left off like no time has passed. Both types of friendships have their pros and cons, and understanding where they fall on the maintenance spectrum can save you a lot of headaches. Let’s dive into what makes a friendship high-maintenance versus low-maintenance, and how you can navigate both in a way that keeps your friendships thriving. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

10-01
28:00

107. Let’s Talk About Overcoming Unresolved Trauma

Today, you and I are going to discuss how to BEGIN to overcome unresolved trauma. Now I say begin because I recognize that (1) this isn't a one and done kinda of practice (2) with everything great and worthy you must at least just start. So this is the beginning for us. Now. This is a heavy topic, but I promise we will tackle it together. We might need to make this a series or even a live podcast with some special guests. Let me know on social media or in the reviews section. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

08-06
29:49

106. Listen to this if you need help managing your emotions

We all know that emotions can sometimes feel like a rollercoaster, am I right? One moment you're on top of the world, and the next, you're down in the dumps. But don't worry, I've got your back. Today, we're diving into the topic of managing our emotions effectively. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

07-09
22:14

105. The Hidden Dangers of Silent Anger

Ever find yourself just fuming inside, putting on that “I’m totally fine” mask for the world while internally you're about to combust? Yeah, I’ve been there too. It’s like this weird, toxic cocktail of simmering rage and pretending everything’s peachy keen. But let’s spill the tea: being silently pissed off is not the move. It’s actually super damaging to your mental health. So in this episode you and I are going to dive into why keeping all that anger bottled up is a big no-no. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

07-09
19:54

104. IDK who needs to hear this but... (part 3)

Life can be a whirlwind of responsibilities, expectations, and the constant push to keep moving forward. In the midst of it all, it's easy to forget the simple truths that can make our journey a bit lighter and our hearts a bit fuller. That's why we're here to remind you of a few things you might need to hear today. In today's episode I am giving you 15 cheeky, relatable messages to give you a little boost, a chuckle, and perhaps a moment of reflection. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

06-15
19:30

103. What to Do When Someone Doesn't Accept Your Apology

We've all been there. You mess up, you apologize, and then… crickets. Or worse, outright rejection. It's like a punch to the gut. In today's episode you and I are going to discuss what to do when someone doesn't accept your apology and how to handle it with grace, dignity, and a sprinkle of self-love. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

06-13
14:53

102. Things you can do to improve your relationship with your siblings

Even though two children in the same household can have very different experiences of childhood, my brother is the only person who will ever understand what it was like to grow up in my parents' house. In this episode, I give you some insight on how I'm recommitting to a better relationship with my brother. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

06-11
23:39

101. Lemme read you this email I got (it's about depression btw)

Someone on Twitter recently reminded me that I use to be on Beyonce’s Internet really writing. Time and tasks have me missing that part of me. But I actually read my own words on this blog post and I sobbed. I also took a few deep breaths of relief because I know I am not in this dark place anymore. I wrote this blog post about grief in 2014 but I felt like it deserved a new space to breathe. After you listen it let’s chat (hoping to find my people). RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

05-13
21:57

100. Wow we really cleared "a hunnit" episodes + our origin story

WOW! A hunnit episodes later and you are still here. Clap it up for yourselves while I take you down memory lane. This episode is our origin story (I rambled, sorry). Enjoy. Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

05-09
31:48

99. These are the 5 manifesting techniques I'm using to create my dream life

Manifesting is a larger umbrella term for a lot of aspects of making your goals a reality. So in today's episode you and I are gonna discuss how you can get better at manifesting your dreams and goals. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

04-15
18:21

97. Lessons I Learned From The Wendy Williams Docuseries

I watched the two part docuseries, Where Is Wendy Williams? and I am honestly a bit floored. Which is why it's now two weeks later and I am just gathering my thoughts. It was not what I expected. I was geeked to see Wendy cut up in the ways only she can. Messy, cheeky, and semi rude. But instead we got a raw, unfiltered, and highly vulnerable depiction of the media legend. In this episode I unpack some of the lessons I learned from watching, Where Is Wendy Williams? . RESOURCES: Make It Happen journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram rD7om6E0SLWTuoGfBkOf Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

03-11
30:07

96. How to have a relationship with a toxic parent

In today's episode I am going to tell you a quick story of what lead me to a 30 day break and then I'm going to give you/me some guidance on how to navigate your relationship with the toxic parent. RESOURCES: Make It Happen journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

02-05
21:47

95. How To Have A Relationship (Or Not) With Your Emotionally Immature friend

In today's episode you and I going to dive into how to handle this with the grace. From setting boundaries to understanding when to take a step back, I’ve got you covered. RESOURCES: Make It Happen journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

01-25
24:08

98. My journey to reframing my sadness

In today's episode, I am going to give you some suggestions on how we can reframe our sadness. Now all of these suggestions are under the assumption that you have already sat with the sadness, you have reconciled that you are sad, you have determined why you are sad, and you are now ready to reframe it. This absolutely does that mean that the minute that you begin to feel sadness rising that you "quote unquote" reframe it. Because now, that is avoidance and we're not doing that. RESOURCES: Make It Happen journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

03-26
21:35

94. IDK who needs to hear this but... (part 2)

To celebrate the end of 2023 this episode is back to back gem-worthy memes (remixed of course). You might wanna grab a journal and pen to take notes. RESOURCES: Make It Happen journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

12-19
13:57

93. All the reasons you need to start trying new things in 2024

Are you tiptoeing around the edge of your comfort zone, itching for a splash of excitement? In today's episode you and I are going to discuss a few reasons why you gotta start trying new things. RESOURCES: Make It Happen journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

12-18
11:53

92. 7 Pieces of Advice That Will Change Your Mentality

In today's episode, I'm giving you my 7 Pieces of Advice That Will Change Your Mentality. This is going to be like your secret roadmap that leads to an incredible treasure, but here's the twist – the treasure is a you being a more happier, more bomb version of you. RESOURCES: Make It Happen journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on Substack - https://tyalexander.substack.com/ Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

12-04
13:26

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