How often do you hear the phrase “Don’t compare yourself to others?” 

I hear it everywhere - articles, social media, and blog posts - and although I understand why people say it, research shows it can actually benefit you to compare yourself to others! 

The challenge with comparing ourselves to others is not the actual comparison, it’s what we say after that.

In this episode of The Disciplined Educator I share why the phrase “don’t compare yourself to others” might be holding you back, along with what to do and what to avoid when you are comparing yourself to others. 

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3:45 In today’s episode you’ll learn 1) 3 issues with the phrase “Don’t compare yourself to others” and 2) Things to do and things to avoid when you are comparing yourself to others

4:19 Issue #1: Our minds are wired to do it

4:34 Mirror neurons: Most of this research comes from Charles Faulkner, Neurolinguistic Programming Specialist 

7:00 Issue #2: It can frustrate us when we are told not to do it

7:28 Episode 3: Why I don’t say the word should

7:58 Issue #3: Research shows comparing ourselves to others actually HELPS us make positive changes! (From the book Willpower by Roy Baumeister)

14:15 Robin Arzon, Peloton Instructor

15:56 Karina Elle: @karinaelle 

16:51 Research shows self-compassion works better than self-criticism

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