In this episode I explain the steps of RAIN (Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture) for emotional processing and how sometimes you can think you're allowing a feeling, but you're really only fake allowing it in hopes that it will go away ASAP. I used to do this all the time. I'd be like "oh yeah, it's totally ok that I'm feeling this" when meanwhile everything in my energy was saying a big fat "no" to it and I'd resist dropping down into my body to actually feel it.

I also go into why lovingly leading yourself through your emotional experiences reinforces the belief that you are unconditionally loved and live in a generous, loving universe. Before I knew how to give myself love and compassion in the face of feeling triggered, I just couldn't trust that I was safe. I wanted to believe I live in a generous universe, but I couldn't really connect to that. Because I didn't even feel loved by my own damn self. I felt judged and shamed every time I experienced difficult feelings. So I continually perceived that I was being personally attacked and punished by the universe as well. 

Now that I consistently show up for myself with compassion no matter what's coming up internally, I find myself more and more able to get behind the belief that I'm inherently worthy and deserving, AND unconditionally loved by something bigger than me. 

You can also watch this episode on YouTube.

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