DiscoverThat Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding#151 An amnesty on discarding guilt - is it possible? With Dr Jan Eppingstall
#151 An amnesty on discarding guilt - is it possible? With Dr Jan Eppingstall

#151 An amnesty on discarding guilt - is it possible? With Dr Jan Eppingstall

Update: 2024-08-091
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Dr Jan Eppingstall has had an idea, and it is as revolutionary as it is terrifying. We talk about it!


  • Shifting focus from individual items to the bigger picture

  • Creating a guilt-free zone for a limited time to honour values and experience more joy and fun in the future

  • Putting aside certain values temporarily to create better conditions for the future

  • Introduction of the concept of "household equilibrium"

  • Understanding the emotional attachment to possessions based on lived experiences

  • Behavioural and Emotional Aspects of Discarding Items

  • Reluctance to discard out-of-date food due to guilt and fear of waste

  • Emotional connection to possessions and the importance of using them

  • Encouraging the usage and enjoyment of possessions

  • Trauma-focused approach to discarding clutter

  • Coping with the guilt and shame around wastefulness

  • Making difficult decisions about discarding items

  • Exposure to letting go and small, less risky decluttering tasks

  • Letting go of controlling outcomes and focusing on wellbeing over perfect disposal

  • Starting with low-risk categories when decluttering, such as wrapping paper

  • Prove that terrible things do not happen when decluttering

  • The importance of proportionality in the decluttering process

  • Children's Belongings and Autonomy in Decluttering

  • Clear guidelines for disposing of belongings that are not yours

  • Contacting owners to collect items, especially for children's belongings

  • Revisiting keepsakes periodically to reassess their importance

  • Respecting children's decisions about their belongings

  • Navigating the decluttering process with understanding and sensitivity

  • Creating a Safe and Comfortable Living Environment

  • Implementing an amnesty on existing rules and guidelines

  • Suspending the acquisition of new items to keep the space in equilibrium

  • Allowing space for new interests and hobbies to enter one's life without guilt

  • Desire for perfection leads to unnecessary clutter.

  • Temporary pause for a more balanced life.

  • Stay safe and open to new experiences.

  • Encouraging use of gorgeous clothes in daily life.

  • Helping people cope with guilt and clutter to prioritise their well-being.

  • Desire for perfection in decision making and finding balance.

  • Some people value frugality but need to let go sometimes.

  • Focus on physical safety, declutter for new hobbies, no guilt.

  • Facing fears leads to growth and relief from guilt.

  • Recommendation to limit exposure to items and practice letting go to avoid regret.

  • Encourage using and enjoying clothes, shoes.

  • Expressing love for a cherished mug.

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#151 An amnesty on discarding guilt - is it possible? With Dr Jan Eppingstall

#151 An amnesty on discarding guilt - is it possible? With Dr Jan Eppingstall

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