DiscoverChaos to Connection: Boundaries and Breakthroughs for Cycle-Breaking Women256. Saying What You Mean: Breaking Free from Martyrdom
256. Saying What You Mean: Breaking Free from Martyrdom

256. Saying What You Mean: Breaking Free from Martyrdom

Update: 2025-09-29
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This week, I welcome October—one of my favorite months—and reflect on why this season always feels like a fresh start. But I also share how the holidays, family gatherings, and “good behavior” in my childhood masked a much deeperstory: my mother’s resentment, silence, and martyrdom.

Like so many women, she took care of everyone else’s needs while ignoring her own. That resentment spilled out in anger—and I passed on those same patterns to my own children.

In this episode, I explore:

*Why expecting others to know or meet our needs is a form of enmeshment.

*How boundary work is really about knowing and meeting our own needs.

*Why saying what you mean (even if it creates conflict) builds deeper connection.

*How approval-seeking from our children keeps us stuck in old patterns.

*The truth that cooperation comes through connection, notcontrol.

*How boundaries and emotional regulation go hand in hand.

This is about more than parenting—it’s about breaking generational patterns of silence, resentment, and martyrdom so we can create relationships rooted in truth, connection, and freedom.

Key takeaway: What you don’t own, owns you. Boundaries are not walls—they’re the path to deeper connection.

✨ Resources & Next Steps:

Book a Boundary Breakthrough Session with Diane: https://www.dianesorensen.net/call

Connect with Diane on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/dianesorensen.bb/⁠

The Beautiful Behavior CoachingPrograms will support you in setting firm boundaries that promote self-regulation, compassion and mutual respect in all your relationships and parenting journey.  Reclaim your CALM, discover your TRUTH, and live FREE. 

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256. Saying What You Mean: Breaking Free from Martyrdom

256. Saying What You Mean: Breaking Free from Martyrdom

Diane Sorensen