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78: Lead, don’t follow: Evidence over ideology in post-separation parenting

78: Lead, don’t follow: Evidence over ideology in post-separation parenting

Update: 2025-11-20
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Most protective parents assume their lawyer or mediator understands what their children truly need after separation - developmentally, emotionally, and in terms of safety.
But the uncomfortable truth is this: lawyers know the law, not child development.
They are not trained in coercive control, developmental trauma, or the research that actually predicts how children thrive after separation.

In this episode, Danielle explains why you must lead your legal team, not follow them - and why relying on “what your lawyer thinks is reasonable” can lead to unsafe, developmentally inappropriate outcomes for your children.

You’ll learn why evidence, not ideology, must guide your parenting proposals, and how protective parents can become the experts in their own children’s needs - rather than outsourcing those decisions to professionals who don’t have the training to make them.

Danielle also shares a preview of next week’s deep dive into coercive control, and gives listeners an early heads-up: do not buy the Blueprint this week - a Black Friday discount and special bonus will be announced next week!

In this episode:

  • Lawyers and mediators are not trained in child development
  • How adult “fairness” ideology distorts parenting outcomes
  • The evidence every protective parent needs to know
  • Why you must instruct your lawyer - not the other way around
  • How the Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™ fills the evidence gap

Disclaimer:
This podcast contains general information only. It is not legal advice, counselling, or a substitute for individual coaching.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

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78: Lead, don’t follow: Evidence over ideology in post-separation parenting

78: Lead, don’t follow: Evidence over ideology in post-separation parenting

Danielle Black