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In this episode, Brenda and Sara dive deep into the tangled intersection of narcissistic abuse and  divorce, unpacking how these dynamics create a perfect storm of emotional exhaustion and legal chaos. Through raw personal stories and professional insight, they shed light on why clear boundaries and strong support systems are essential for survival and recovery. They break down how to maintain meticulous documentation, improve communication, and prepare strategically for court. From navigating complex legal challenges to building emotional resilience, this conversation gives listeners practical tools and validation for one of the hardest battles they’ll ever face.

Takeaways

• Narcissism and addiction can coexist but are not the same.
• Setting boundaries is crucial for protecting oneself and children.
• Documentation is key in legal proceedings against a narcissist.
• Emotional exhaustion can lead to a loss of attraction in relationships.
• Support systems play a vital role during the divorce process.
• Communication should be kept in writing to avoid misunderstandings.
• Expect delays in the divorce process, both financially and emotionally.
• Narcissists often lack integrity, even in court settings.
• It's important to prepare mentally for court appearances.
• Self-care and grounding techniques are essential before court dates.

Chapters

00:00
Introduction to Narcissism and Addiction

02:00
Navigating Divorce with a Narcissist

05:06
The Importance of Communication with Your Lawyer

05:55
Documenting Everything: A Key Strategy

08:20
Understanding the Gray Rock Technique

12:17
Preparing for Court: Emotional and Financial Readiness

15:35
Expecting Dishonesty in Court

17:07
Keeping Track of Court Orders

19:26
Utilizing Available Resources and Support

20:33
Establishing a Court Day Ritual

Two Queens and a Joker, My Narcissist Ex and Me 
is sponsored by the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center, where we provide therapy, classes, and support groups for people healing from narcissistic abuse. Contact us at www.narctrauma.com. 

Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints on trust, relationships, and identity. Survivors often feel isolated, anxious, and hypervigilant. But healing is possible. By rebuilding self-trust, noticing patterns, and taking small, steady steps toward connection, survivors can slowly allow safe people back into their lives.

The scars remain, but they don’t define the future. Survivors are not broken, they are rebuilding.

We specialize in helping survivors untangle the patterns of narcissistic abuse and recover their sense of self. Learn more at www.narctrauma.com.

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