EP 40 How Accurate are Personality Assessments? Are Personality Tests Effective for Defining Who I Am? Do I Need to Be Concerned about my Emotional Intelligence?

Oh girl, you are such an introvert!

Hey, you are way too analytical.

You are such a high achiever.

You are such a type A!

Oh no, I can't do that. I'm an introvert.

I am way too shy for that...

You're the life of the party. You are like a magnet. Everybody comes to you everywhere you go.

Have you guys ever heard of any of these kinds of things? I'm a type, a personality.  I'm a partier. Maybe you have heard that you are a, like... a dictator. Well, all of these kinds of things come from personality traits and there are so many different personality assessments out there. And I just wanted to give you a soft warning about personality tests today in this episode, that's what we're going to talk about. A warning about all of the different personality tests actions.

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Welcome back friends to this episode of Holy made life. Before we get into it, I want to talk to you for just a minute. Listen, I know how you might be feeling right now. There's a lot going on around us. And I think that that impacts how we feel about our ability to feel successful in all areas of your life. There's something going on in our hearts and our minds. And we're just feeling a little as a mom or a wife, or maybe we feel like we're putting too much into our work and not having enough energy and love left for our spouses, our kids, and all the extra things that we have to do. You know, maybe you're unsure of what this thing is you've been feeling, but you know that there's something more and you're just trying to figure out what you can do to get to a place where you feel more balanced.

Again. You know, if you wished there was a way to feel more balanced and successful in all areas of your life, you know, you wish maybe that you can go from feeling restless or burnt out, overwhelmed, stressed out all the time from not being able to meet all of these X pay expectations and all areas of your life. You know, we can get to the point where we can actually restore that joy and the feeling of satisfaction in those areas that we feel a little off in. So, you know, we feel this way sometimes, right? All of us feel a little stuck sometimes, but there are times that we feel like, man, I just can't get past this. And those are the times that you got to reach out for help. I believe that you're created to do all the things in your life well, and that you're more than just your job or your title or your motherhood, or being a wife.

You are more than all those things. You're so wonderfully and fearfully made and you deserve to have that joy to feel fulfilled in all parts of your life. And so does your family, so you can have it. All. What I want to do is invite you to come have a session with me to go through the five things that will help us get ourselves back to where we want to be. We're going to walk through rediscovering your identity, identifying those areas of your life. That might mean a change, defining what success looks like. How do you even know if you're getting there? If you don't know what you're going after, we're going to embrace where you've been, who you are and where you're going, who you're becoming. We're going to embrace that because only you can get to where you're destined to be. And we're going to activate those things by coming up with simple action plans that you can implement in each area so that you can start to feel more balanced and meet that expectation for you in your life.

And then we're going to reclaim feeling that balance and our whole lives. All right. So hop on over to Angie tune, anyRogers@gmail.com and I will be so excited to talk to you and walk through this idea framework together. Okay. All right. So today we're going to talk about something that I think is a pretty neat thing, and it is the spiritual gifts. Now I want to pause for a minute here and talk a little bit first about the amount of weight that we put on things such as personality assessments and even the spiritual gifts assessment. You know God has made us who we are for a specific purpose. You know, all of us have gifts that differ. And it's all according to the grace that he has given us to let us use those gifts that we have actually Romans 12, four through six says for, as in one body, we have many members and the members do not all have the same function.

So we don't many are one body in Christ and individually members. One of enough having guests that differ according to the grace, given to us, let us use them. And so that's speaks to the fact that we're all made different. So I want to just have a balance here of what it is and who it is God's calling us to be. We need to be very, very clear of our identity in Christ. Jesus. We need to be very clear about what the Bible says about who we are that always comes first. And then when we take these personality assessments and I've taken, I mean, probably all of them, not all of them, I guess, but many, many of them throughout my time in the social work and mental health and behavioral health field, we take personality, assessment galore. And quite frankly, a lot of those traits or characteristics or ways that I do things or how I experience things.

A lot of those ring true. But some of it doesn't. So yeah, it's important to know first your identity in Christ, so that when you take these assessments, you are able to gauge that and see if it's aligned with who it is called. God's called you to be pray about those things that are out of place or feel a little bit different than what you feel like you experienced life as. So sometimes things come back and assessments that make you feel a certain way. Like, man, I don't really feel like I experienced life that way, or that's not really me now. Number one, I asked you to think about the feedback and really see, is it really not like you? Or is it an area that is a area I don't call them weaknesses. I call them areas for growth. Is it a place where you can grow or get that feedback and just get some insight on how you might be able to change a little bit in that area to experience life a little differently, or use some of those areas for growth to become more impactful or effective in that area of your life.

But ultimately it has to align with the word of God. It has to align with what God has said about you. So remember that as I talk through this spiritual gifts assessment, okay. There are lots of different assessments. The Myers-Briggs I know people talk about the Enneagram and you know, there's a lot of controversy, especially among Christians with that one, because that one was rooted in pagan roots. And so obviously that is a controversial one, but I think that with anything, because guys, we live in this world, we are of this world, but we're not from this world. So we are going to be impacted. We're going to be surrounded by, you know paganism things. Is that even a word? I don't know we're going to be impacted by the culture of this world. It's just important though, that we take a stand and have that basic foundation of who we are in Christ, who we are in a biblical worldview, so that when things don't align around us, in our culture, in personality tests, that we are able to call out those differences and walk in alignment with God.

All right, let's talk about the spiritual gifts. I just want to go through these. I was having a discussion about this recently with some girls and while a lot of it rings true for them, some of them were talking about how well that doesn't really feel like me. And you know, the important thing is just as in Romans 12, four through six, it said that we all have different gifts. We all are members that don't have the same function. So, but we're all one embodying Christ. The same thing happens with these characteristics. These, all these things, ebb and flow for me specifically, and this might come as a surprise for a lot of people, especially in my professional world. I am an extreme introvert. I did not say extrovert. I said, introvert. I am an extreme introvert, but I have had positions in my life, especially in my career where I have had to adapt and develop my skill sets to be more extroverted because I was in positions of leadership and I had to go out and talk to people.

I didn't know. And I had to make room for that skillset. So I had a lot of practice how I know that it is something that is outside of my nature, outside of how I'm built, how I'm wired is because it exhausts me completely exhausts me, you know, after serving hours at the church for a function or after working an eight to 10 to 12 to 18 hour shifts. I am exhausted when I am done with that because not only is it I'm putting the best energy that I can out for that the best activity that I can, but it's also an adaptation that I have developed to be over and beyond what my nature, what my normal characteristics, my normal personality would be. So it's just th