EP 45 Follow These 7 Steps to Find More Balance in Your Wholly Made Life for Busy Working Moms: Decrease the Burn-Out, Stress, Overwhelm in your Marriage, Parenting, Job

What's up ladies, welcome back to this episode of Wholly Made Life. So today I want to talk to you about signs and symptoms of feeling unbalanced or being unbalanced. And we're going to get into this whole word of balance because I think it's really important. You know, we hear all of these things and I talk a lot about this as well, is that we want to restore that balance in all areas of our lives. But what does that really mean?

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So ladies, before we get into today's episode, a quick word about a special coaching package that I have for you. If you have been feeling unbalanced in some areas of your life, and you've been feeling like you're just stuck and you can't seem to get out of this funk, that's exactly what my coaching package will help you with. We will go through the big idea framework together, and we will come up with an action plan that will allow you to do some small things that equal big results. So jump over into my email actually, instead of my email, jump over to my website. It's at Angie, Tony rogers.com and you can access my coaching menu there. All right. So let's get into today's episode. Okay. We're going to talk about this almost dreaded thing called because I think sometimes it just seems so unattainable. So let's first talk about some signs and symptoms that you might be in a place where you feel unbalanced in some areas of your life.

So it can look like burnout or feel like burnout. It can feel like you are constantly busy and you are not really having time to breathe or to do things that you feel like you need to do. It could be that you get to the end of the day. And you're like, what in the world did I even do today? What did I even accomplish? It can be feeling like you're constantly tired and you just can't get a break or you can't get rested. You can't get to a place where you're feeling any peace at all. It could result in physical manifestations like headaches or upset stomach. A lot of times when we're stressed out or when things are going in a way that we're not really able to take care of ourselves because we are just in such an unbalanced place. In some area of our life, we start to have a lot of gastro issues which would be belly or you know, either nausea or vomiting or sometimes diarrhea or constipation.

A lot of times our physical manifestations of stress show up as headaches or stomach issues. So bowel problems fatigue, energy loss, those are all things that could be happening. Just a sense of overwhelm, a sense of just feeling stress could be that you're having trouble remembering what it was that you needed to do on your to-do list. Maybe your to-do list is like a mountain that you can not see the top of, or that you can never even get to the bottom of. And so you're just standing in the middle of this mountain, hanging on for dear life, wishing or hoping that you could either start over and get to the bottom or, and go home or get to the top and finally breathe in the air and look at the view. But it's just that you're stuck.

Okay. So those are some of the symptoms. So let's talk about my seven steps that we are going to go through to find a sense of balance. Okay. So the first one, well here's what, whatever we're going to do, we're going to spell out the word balance and I have a word and an action for each of those letters. So B well, let's start with balance. So the number one, one thing that we're going to do is you have to define it. There are so many people that say, Oh, I'm just not balanced, or I don't feel right. Or things are not going well, or I'm not meeting all my expectations. I'm never accomplishing anything. But when you talk to them, they're like not, they're not even in a place where they can even define, well, what would it look like to be balanced? What does it feel like?

So think about each of our areas of our life pie, which we're talking about, physical, financial, professional, relational, et cetera, and think about, okay, if you felt like you were spending enough energy and time there and feeling accomplished in those areas, what would it feel like? What does it look like? You've got to know what the goal is in order to know that you're meeting the expectations or meeting that balance. So it's so super important to define what balance looks like to you. I hate to break it to you, sisters, but balance is not like a perfect circle where everything is. Even in fact, if you take the Holy made life short assessment, which can be accessed on my website, Andy, to nanny rogers.com, you will see that there are going to be areas in our life pie, where we are scoring lower than other areas.

And that's okay for the season that we, or you may be in. In fact, let me read you a scripture. It is Ecclesiastes three, one eight for everything. There's a season and a time for every matter, under heaven at time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant in a time to pluck up. What's planted a time to kill and a time to heal a time to break down a time, to build up a time, to weep a time, to laugh, a time to mourn a time to dance, a time to cast away stones and a time to gather stones together at a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing. So this scripture reminds me that there are seasons for everything. So you have to understand that even if your scores are uneven or unbalanced, quote unquote, I'm doing air quotes, then you still might be in a season where that might be okay.

You just have to give yourself permission to be okay with that. And to still give yourself credit for meeting the expectations. Here's a great example. Let's say you've got a big project at work that you're working on. Well, maybe you have to work those 10 or 12 or 14 hours a day during the season where this project is, maybe that portion of your life pie needs more time for you right now. So, so the key is to be intentional about the other areas of your life, you know, with your relationships, making sure you communicate, Hey family, this is a project that I'm going to be working on during this season. And this is what it's going to require of me. And here's what I need from you to support me in this. Here's what I need for you to remind me when I'm falling short of certain things.

Maybe I'm not getting enough sleep well, you've got to balance some of that. You can't go, you know, every single night for three weeks with zero hours of sleep. So you've got to have somebody there that's going to help hold you accountable to that as well as yourself, but also having that intentional conversation about, Hey, it's gonna be more energy and time and focus in my professional piece of the pie right now during this season. And then once that season's over, we will refocus and reallocate some time to maybe the relationship piece of a pie. Okay? So that's an example of how we are in seasons. We are always looking to be in balance based on the season and the needs that we have for that particular time. The other thing about balance and making sure that you add this to the definition is that it is on going, it's ongoing.

You have to make peace with the fact that you are going to have pieces of your life pie that require more time than others at different times in your life. And you have to know that being balanced and creating that balance is based on a definition that you can actually maintain and meet expectations from. And you're always working on it. You're always assessing it. You're always trying to create that balance. You're being intentional about that. So it's ongoing. You have to know where you feel and find joy. The fruits of the spirit include joy. So you have to make sure that you are finding joy somewhere, because the more places that even if they're small, that you can identify that you find joy from that will help keep the levels of burnout and stress and overwhelm down because you're still able to find that joy.

All right. So we talked about it flexing. That means that it's, it's gonna be, it's going to wax and wane, you know, with your seasons. Okay. So that's B that's balanced. The second one is a, and we're going to assess and acknowledge. So what this means is that you've in order for you to kinda know what's going on, you've got to pinpoint the feelings and emotions and, and mindset that you have around what's going on right now in your life with your life pine, with all of these different pieces of your pie. You've got to assess what that looks like. You've got to make sure that the definitions that you, you created up and be in the balance, the definition still makes sense for today because today's definition of what balance looks like might be different than yesterday or three months ago or three years ago, or before you had ki