Working excessively for a brief or limited period of time may occasionally be necessary, but if it’s one spouse’s defacto year after year, divorce, infidelity, or a health crisis is practically inevitable.

In this episode of the WifeSavers Podcast, What To Do When He Works Too Much, multi-award-winning marriage author and educator, Ramona Zabriskie, and her husband of 43+ years, Dale, discuss what to do when one spouse is spending so much time on work, the other feels undesirable, neglected, or resentful.

THROW ME A WIFESAVER: “Basically, my husband works too hard. We’ve talked about it many times, but whenever he agrees to try and make things better, it doesn’t last more than a week or two and then he’s right back to work. I can’t help feeling sad and a little insecure, honestly. Help!”

Key points in the podcast:

• The balance between accommodating his career and her needs


• A 16-point self-evaluation: “You may be a workaholic if…”


• The reasons a person feels compelled to overwork


• The three dangers in being married to a workaholic


• The things a neglected spouse should absolutely not do


• 5 things the neglected spouse should do


• Communicating concerns effectively to the workaholic


• 6 actions and 6 boundaries you can both agree to


• How to know if your solutions will actually work and stick

“They are so so fun to listen to! I feel like I’m in their living room just listening to them talk. I love the male perspective from Dale. Thank you for a life-giving podcast! ✮✭✭✭✭” Apple Podcast listener

Related episodes:

Episode 32: Not Enough Time for Quality Couple Time

Episode 26: When He’s Traveling for Business

Episode 24: Tech and Relationships: Husband and Kids

Episode 2: Getting Your Husband To Prioritize Your Needs Too