DiscoverF*CK Trauma PodcastEp 51: Why Avoidants Change When You Change State (Law of Assumption)
Ep 51: Why Avoidants Change When You Change State (Law of Assumption)

Ep 51: Why Avoidants Change When You Change State (Law of Assumption)

Update: 2025-11-21
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Are avoidants actually avoidant… or are they reflecting something deeper back to you - especially if you have anxious attachment?

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In today's episode of the F*CK TRAUMA Podcast, I’m breaking down one of the most perspective-shifting teachings you will ever learn about relationships:


Why avoidants show up the way they do, and how the Law of Assumption can transform the dynamic completely.

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Not by chasing.Not by fixing.Not by abandoning yourself.
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Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

✨ Why anxious attachers are drawn to avoidants
✨ What the “abandonment mirror” actually is
✨ How your inner assumptions create avoidant patterns
✨ Why avoidant behaviour feels so familiar to your body
✨ How changing your identity changes how THEY show up
✨ How to shift the story of them and the story of you
✨ Embodiment practices to step into secure, chosen energy

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This is the deeper layer behind everything I teach:
You are not powerless in your relationships, and avoidants are not “fixed this way.”


They reflect your inner world and when you shift, they do too.

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If you haven’t listened to these episodes yet, start here:

They’ll give you the perfect foundation for today’s teaching:

🔹 You Can't Change Them Until You Change You (Self-concept & Law of Assumption)

🔹 Transform Your Relationships with the Law of Assumption

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Want to go deeper?

Free Masterclass: Becoming Secure You

Masterclass: Stop Attracting Avoidants

Masterclass: Stop Them Pulling Away

Signature Program: Anxious to Secure in Love

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Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Ep 51: Why Avoidants Change When You Change State (Law of Assumption)

Ep 51: Why Avoidants Change When You Change State (Law of Assumption)

Candice Tamara