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TRANSCRIPT

Speaker 1: (00:03 )

Hey, Queens, welcome to, but still she thrives. Do you wanna stop getting caught up in that wicked web of a creepy crawling narcissist? You find yourself up late at night replaying the abuse you put up with and wondering how you can heal now, do you wake up hoping for healthy relationships and peace only to feel totally exhausted and mind effed? Girl, I see you. I'm Christie. I too had to disconnect from toxic people in my life, and I wished I could undo the damage. I felt ashamed, lonely, and kind of lost. But I'm a stubborn Italian and I refused to give up. I found ways to recalibrate my mind and body more quickly than I thought and can now share them with you. In this podcast, you will find coping tools, healing methods, and confidence boosters so you can trust yourself and find peace and freedom. So, shields up ladies, let's go protect our peace.



Speaker 1: (01:00 )

Hello and welcome. I know it's been a hot minute since I have done a new recording, but here I am and I wanna try out, uh, let me know if the audio's okay. I always have my email address. I'll check the audio, but if you guys feel like the audio is good enough or you want me to go back into my smaller room with my headphones, but I thought I would try this, this way, it might end up sounding that great. But I'm just gonna do a quick, a quick little podcast bonus episode. Um, I've been reentering some older stuff and trying to figure out how to pivot this podcast. I feel like I am growing. I'm doing all of this somatic healing. Um, I just got, well, I'm almost, almost have my new certification in somatic healing and that's really expanding what I'm doing and I would love to incorporate a lot of healing and empowerment, not just around narcissistic abuse.



Speaker 1: (01:53 )

So I would love to hear your feedback in an, um, email to me that will be in the show notes. Fierce Mama c is my email. Like I said, it's in the show notes. You can just, just grab it there and let me know if you would like to hear a more broad range of healing and empowerment. Not totally all narcissistic abuse related. Um, really focusing on just recovery and bettering your life and healing in general, um, and sprinkling in some episodes like this of narcissistic specific stuff. So yesterday, this is why I decided to, uh, talk about this today. Yesterday I was, um, thinking about a time in my past where I felt like I was terrified of a smear campaign, right, of a smear campaign that was going on. And if you don't know what a smear campaign this is, this can be anybody, I guess can technically do it, but it's often related to narcissists that they will do this as a form to try to control or gain control or get you even back.



Speaker 1: (03:05 )

So what they do is they will try to smear your name. They will make up lies. They will, um, share information maybe that you did share with them that they promise to not tell people. But you know, once you have gone against them or left them odds are they, it's, it's very common that a narcissist will then start what's called a smear campaign. They're smearing your name and they're campaigning, right? They are getting as many people as they can on their side of things, believing their narrative and going against you, right? The flying monkeys, they're called, um, Sam Nan coined that phrase. It's the flying monkeys. And it's terrifying because you got all of these people now believing these untruths usually about you. Um, and they're on like under the demise of the narcissist, which if you know a narcissist, you know how it is to be under the thumb of them.



Speaker 1: (04:03 )

And now these other people, you're finally out of it or getting out of it. And then you've got these other people that are now being controlled and being tricked by the narcissist, right? And they're gonna come after you or go against you. So what, what is the way to deal with this? And this is kind of common in what I say. The best way is no contact with the narcissist. Just like the best way to deal with a smear campaign is to not address it. No response. And this is hard. I was thinking back for me, I was like, there was someone that was believing some of the stuff this person was saying, and I was desperately trying to convince. And that is not what you're supposed to do, right? You are supposed to not respond, not take the bait, and you have to do this.



Speaker 1: (05:00 )

And it, it takes strength because you have to believe and have faith, which I do now then I didn't. I've healed to a place where I now know in my heart that the good people, the people who support me, my true friends, my true family that supports me, those people are going to believe me. Um, it's one thing if you wanna say one time, just so you know that's not true, right? But overly trying to convince somebody, one of the flying monkeys or people that ha the narcissist is trying to control, maybe they're not successful yet, but the person's like, well, wait. Is this true about you? You can say, look, I didn't do this. You can choose to believe what you want, but that will filter out, it will filter out the people who really aren't a hundred percent for you, right? It'll filter out the people that are easily swayed by the narcissist.



Speaker 1: (06:08 )

And again, we know narcissists are very, they're good at what they do. But once you're out of that mindset, it's good to surround yourself with other people that are not easily swayed by, by narcissists or by controlling people, right? That have their own minds and have gotten to a place in life where they can trust themselves. And now that you're in this space, you can know and come to this, well hopefully are, if you're not, let's do some somatic healing that is basically healing from the body. It's epic work. Email me or I will put, um, a Calendly link to just go ahead and set up your first session. It is amazing. Um, I should probably do a whole episode on explaining it more. Um, but it's really epic work. I have had such an awesome time doing it, and the work is deep work, long lasting work, and, and we always try to make it as fun as we can.



Speaker 1: (07:06 )

Any type of work with me. So it's, everyone has loved it so far, . Um, but when you get to this healed space, it's important to know that it's actually a good thing. Like when these situations come up, instead of feeling the stress and hell around it, fo