Episode Summary:

How do old wounds resurface in midlife relationships—and how can we use them as pathways to deeper connection? In this episode of SoulShift, hosts Christine Morgenstern Shin and Mindy Gorman-Plutzer talk with Monica Tanner, RLT-trained Relationship Coach, host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast, and author of the new book Bad Marriage Advice.

Monica shares practical tools from Relational Life Therapy to help couples move beyond reactivity into compassion, intimacy, and repair. You’ll learn how to shift from your adaptive child into your wise adult, why communication is more about understanding than being “right,” and how to balance big dreams with strong relationships.

This episode is a reminder that healing is relational—and that it’s never too late to rewrite your love story.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why old wounds get triggered in relationships
• How to move from fight/flight to embodied safety
• Practical ways to pause, breathe, and reconnect
• The power of curiosity and compassion in communication
• How entrepreneurs can grow without burning out or neglecting family

About Our Guest – Monica Tanner:

Monica Tanner helps couples ditch resentment and reclaim their happily ever after through coaching, her Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast, and her new book Bad Marriage Advice.

• Website: www.monicatanner.com 
• Book: www.badmarriageadvice.com 
• Podcast: Secrets of Happily Ever After
• Instagram: @monitalksmarriage 

Resources & Links:

• Explore Mindy’s work at www.thefreedompromise.com
• Connect with Ali at www.aliandersonwellness.com
• Learn more about Christine at www.radiantheart.health  

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