Tired of telling people what to do, only for your words to fall on deaf ears? Do you feel like you're just "barking orders" without seeing any real, lasting behavioral change in your team or family?

In this episode, I’ll share my 3-step framework for "silent influence," a method grounded in Albert Bandura's Social Learning Theory, to help you inspire others with integrity. You’ll learn why your actions are far more potent than your words and how to embody the change you wish to see, so you can become a truly effective and trusted leader.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• The power of modeling behavior vs. giving verbal commands (and why children and teams do what you do, not what you say).


• The three simple steps for silent influence: Acknowledge, Choose Your Vehicle, and Reinforce.


• How to use storytelling as a potent "vehicle for impact" to give others permission to change.


• The science behind why a genuine compliment is as powerful as a financial reward for reinforcing behavior.

This video is perfect for leaders, managers, entrepreneurs, and parents who want to create genuine, long-lasting behavioral change in their teams and families.

Your next move:

👉 Access a FREE guide to help you pitch yourself with confidence in 12 seconds or less: https://influential.kit.com/12-second-magnetic-message
👉 Pre-order Ravi’s upcoming book Relationship Currency: https://www.theravirajani.com/book

Timestamps:

0:00 A Fair Warning Before You Begin
1:40 The Million-Dollar Question About Your Influence Style
3:02 The Leader's Gut-Check: "Are you embodying the change?"
5:11 How Are You Reinforcing Good Behavior?
6:54 The Hardest Question: "Where am I falling short?"