Episode Overview

In this insightful episode, hosts Chris Wong and Lucie Tesarova welcome Angela Barnes, MBA, CFRE, to explore one of the most challenging aspects of workplace communication: setting and maintaining boundaries. Angela brings over a decade of fundraising expertise and shares hard-won lessons about navigating boundaries in nonprofit organizations.

Guest

Angela D Barnes, MBA, CFRE

• Principal of ADB Strategy


• Specializes in working with nonprofits with operating budgets between $250K-$1M


• Provides development workshops, digital workbooks, and strategic consulting services

Key Topics Discussed

The Nonprofit Boundary Challenge

• Corporate vs. Nonprofit Dynamics: Angela explains how boundary expectations differ dramatically between for-profit and nonprofit sectors


• Board Structure Complications: Why nonprofit board members often have more visibility and direct access to staff than their corporate counterparts


• The Training Gap: How lack of proper board onboarding contributes to boundary violations

The Seven Areas of Boundaries

Angela introduces her holistic framework for understanding boundaries across seven key life areas and explains why we often fail to bring our personal boundaries into the workplace.

Common Boundary Mistakes

1. Waiting for the "perfect" verbal boundary: Boundaries can be set through behavior, posture, and simple communications (like email signatures)


2. Setting boundaries in anger: Reacting emotionally instead of proactively communicating expectations


3. Expecting mind-reading: Assuming others should know your boundaries without clear communication


4. Staying in whine mode: Complaining repeatedly without taking action to change

Kind vs. Nice: A Critical Distinction

• Nice = Sympathy: Over-accommodating, making exceptions, avoiding accountability


• Kind = Empathy: Understanding someone's situation while still maintaining standards and expectations


• The Late Employee Example: How Angela addressed chronic lateness with kindness but persistence, getting results after five years of others being "nice"

Emergency Boundaries

When boundaries aren't set proactively, you're forced into "emergency boundary" mode, which turns into crisis communications and difficult conversations.

Key Takeaways

✅ Start with organizational boundaries: Understand what boundaries exist (or don't exist) in your workplace before setting personal ones

✅ Communicate boundaries proactively: Don't wait until you're frustrated or angry to express your limits

✅ Boundaries don't require confrontation: Simple changes like email signatures can set expectations without drama

✅ Whining signals readiness (or unreadiness): If you're complaining repeatedly without action, ask yourself if you're truly ready to change

✅ Own your destiny: Your boundaries and the enforcement of them are your responsibility, not other people's

Contact Angela: 

• http://www.adbstrategies.com/ 


• LinkedIn

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