In this week's episode of The Autism Mums Podcast we welcome Kimberley Guche to the show. Kim explains how our children read our inner signals (even when we’re 'holding it together), why we can’t think our way out of overwhelm and the simple, compassionate resets that help us move from chaos to calm.

Kimberley's Biography

Kim Guche is a pediatric speech-language pathologist, certified hypnotherapist, NLP coach, and the creator of Nervous System First Parenting™ — a revolutionary, body-based approach that helps overwhelmed moms calm their own nervous system so they can lead with steadiness and intention. Drawing on trauma-informed tools, vagus nerve science, and her own journey as a single mom of four, Kim teaches the part most parenting books miss: how to shift chaos by regulating the energy inside you. Her 5-minute Chaos to Calm™ Reset isn’t just for your kids — it’s for you, so you can finally stop white-your way through motherhood.

Key Takeaways

• Calm is a body state: regulation has to be felt, not forced by thoughts.
• Children read our nervous systems - even when we’re 'holding it together.'
• Five-minute resets that work anywhere: breath, havening, tapping, shaking, cold-water splash.
• Visual anchors (trees, sunflowers, happy snapshots) create a rapid route back to safety.
• Grounding touch and proprioceptive input can soothe dysregulation when touch is OK.
• Micro 'pattern interrupts' sprinkled through the day raise your resilience floor.
• Congruence matters: when your inner and outer signals match, kids settle faster.
• Anchor the good: pair a physical cue with a joyful memory for instant state-shifts.
• Work with mums and kids to amplify results and reduce trigger loops.
• Progress over perfection - self-kindness keeps everyone steadier.

Connect with Kimberley

Access Kim's meditations:

Peaceful Parenting

Chaos to Calm Reset

Access Kim's free Skool group where mums can find help to get calmer inside of the chaos.  

Website:  www.entrancinginspirations.com

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Transcript

Natalie Tealdi: [00:00:00 ] welcome to the podcast, Kim. It's great to

have you here.

Kim Guche: It's great

to be here. Thank you.

Natalie Tealdi: So

you've got a really interesting background. Can you talk a little bit about

your journey to becoming the creator of the Nervous System First Parenting

please.

Kim Guche: My journey

is started I think probably when I was a speech. I'm a speech language

pathologist and I, and I also have four children. I, when I was, had a turning

point in my speech pathology career where I, it just wasn't working for me

anymore. And I knew I needed to do something different 'cause something else

felt like it was calling me and I ended up finding my way to look, going into

hypnosis, but for myself.

Kim Guche: 'cause I

wanted to see what is this about? How could I use it for me? And, so the minute

I walked in to the appointment that I had, it was like just something hit me.

Like I knew oh, I feel like this is what I'm supposed to do now, but I didn't

know why or how or really what I [00:01:00 ] was

gonna do with it.

Kim Guche: And I just

knew it is I gotta open this up more. And then when I learned about it. And I

started, I started working with it. And you know how much it helped me. I

thought this would really be great for all the kids that I work with, that

because I had said when I was working with the kids every time I'd go back to

school on Monday, wouldn't it be great if there was a way.

Kim Guche: That we

could make all this stuff that I tell you all the time, stick, and then we

wouldn't have to start over again every Monday. And I didn't know that. Using

the subconscious mind, that's exactly what happens. So once I learned that, it

hit me like, oh, that's how you do it. You use the other side of the brain and

not just for learning, but for so many things.

Kim Guche: Just

mindset and letting go of the old. Like the fears that we have and the

self-doubts and the the anxiety. And so I had thought I do wanna [00:02:00 ] use this. It helped me so much. I wanna

help people, but I'm passionate about kids. So I thought, how can I use this?

How can I use this to help the kids that I work with?

Kim Guche: And then

it just started happening that, moms, I had a people finding me and saying, can

you know, how can you help my kid? And it started out with I was getting a lot

of children for sports improvement gymnasts and kids who were getting in their

head for their sport and had fear.

Kim Guche: And so I

started doing that and and that's of course, that's wonderful because you, you

wanna see kids excel because that's how their self-esteem and they grow in so

many ways through their sport and you never want them to give up. So I started

like that and then I thought, wow, this could really help so many kids with the

limiting beliefs and the anxiety that they have.

Kim Guche: And then,

because as a speech language pathologist primarily working with kids on the

autism spectrum, A DHD like the gamut of everything in a [00:03:00 ] school. I started getting clients, like

moms were bringing their kids to me with with autism and help, asking could I

help them learn how to socialize better or to get over a fear.

Kim Guche: And that,

so I it went into that. And then personally for me, I left. The place where I

was living moved to a new place where I knew no one and had a huge cataclysmic

life event where I was very anxious all the time with a lot of very high needs

kids in the class that I was working in.

Kim Guche: And so I

was struggling with them and I was watching like these kids. Listen, and they

follow directions for the teacher and for other people. But they were not

behaving at all when they were in speech. And I know I'm a great speech

pathologist, so I thought, what, I have to really look at what's going on.

Kim Guche: 'cause

it's not the room we're in, it's not the school. It's, there's gotta be

something with me. [00:04:00 ] So I started,

thinking what would happen? What would happen? What? It's, it, I can't put it

on them. It's got, I have to look at me. What would happen if I meditate every

day before I come to school and got myself calmer.

Kim Guche: And I just

set, said it as like a random, let's do it as an experiment. And I noticed it

worked. I had two good days in a row and I thought, this can't, it can't just

be the meditation, could it? And I thought maybe it really is. So I, I got

outta my meditation routine. When my life changed, which was not a good thing

to do, but that's what happened.

Kim Guche: So I got

back into it, I got back meditating and it, I realized it had nothing to do

with my skill as a speech pathologist with the techniques I was using, with the

reinforcers, with the games we were playing. 'cause they liked all that. It,

they were getting dysregulated because I was dysregulated and. So I was

journaling at the time, and then I just started reflecting. And it brought me

back [00:05:00 ] to all the times when I was

raising my own kids. And my very sensitive son had said to me day, he said,

mommy, you're doing all, why are you, I'm doing all this crying because you're

doing all this yelling.

Kim Guche: And he was

having a day where he wouldn't stop crying. And I said what? Yelling? I haven't

yelled. He said, yes you are. Yes you are. You're yelling right here. Right

here. And he was like pointing, pointing to his chest. And I said, I have, this

mom hasn't yelled, so I don't know what mom, I don't know what mom you're

talking about.

Kim Guche: And then

I, but I didn't connect the dots back then. I, and then I thought back all the

times my other kids had brought up similar thing