Do you sometimes feel like you don’t have control over your life? Are there things you turn to in order to feel better that end up hurting you in the long run? Some coping skills, like impulsive spending, can make us feel like we have control over our lives in the moment. But, they end up harming us in the future and starting a cycle of powerlessness.

ADHD coach Jaye Lin reacts to a quote on impulsive spending. Listen for Jaye’s take on borrowing control from the future, and some tips that can help.

Related resources

• Ellyce’s ADHD Aha! Episode, The pain of struggling with basic tasks: ADHD in the pandemic
• 5 tips to help teens and young adults manage money
• ADHD and emotions

Timestamps

(00:42 ) Ellyce’s quote

(02:00 ) Jaye’s reaction

(03:44 ) How “borrowing” control from the future can lead to a powerlessness cycle

(05:22 ) What can we do?

(09:19 ) How ADHD can affect our sense of control

(15:03 ) The power of self-kindness

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