This episode explores why some people interpret even the gentlest words as an attack. It explains that constant defensiveness often comes from old wounds—criticism in childhood, unstable environments, or tying self-worth to always being “right.” When feedback or boundaries are shared, it lands on those unhealed places, making even small comments feel like rejection or danger.

For the listener, the trigger is the frustration of being careful with words but still being misunderstood. The episode encourages self-reflection—checking your intention, leading with care, and remembering you can be responsible for your words but not someone else’s reaction.

The key message: their defensiveness is their battle, not your burden. Standing in your truth with compassion matters more than shrinking to avoid conflict.