Traver Boehm is the author of Today I Rise, and Man UNcivilized. He’s a two time TEDx speaker, men’s coach and the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement. This movement is radically redefining the way men around the globe experience their masculinity by uniquely blending both primal elements of manhood with massive doses of consciousness.Drawing upon an eclectic background ranging from professional bodyguarding and Mixed Martial Arts to Traditional Chinese Medicine and meditation, Traver also teaches people to skillfully use the inevitable pain of their lives as fuel for growth and positive change.

In 2016 after losing a pregnancy, his marriage, and his business partnership all within weeks of each other, he created a radical social experiment and spent the next 12 months as if it were his last year to live, aptly naming it “The Year to Live Project.” A few of the experiences included volunteering as a hospice worker, spending 28 days in complete isolation and pitch black darkness in Guatemala, and Living in the frigid Utah wilderness for a month with only a knife, a water bottle, and a blanket.

After publishing Today I Rise and receiving an influx of calls specifically from men, Traver began guiding men through their own journey into an actualized version of masculinity by asking them these two questions: “Are you leading or being led?” And, “What are you wounds and what are you doing to heal them?”. When so many said this way of thinking and living was counterintuitive to how they were taught “civilized” men should act, the movement was born.Now men all over the world have deemed themselves UNcivilized as they wake up to meditate, feel into their hearts, and train their bodies. Men who can fight, fuck, feed, and feel. And do all four well.

With a passion for people and a unique lens through which to view the human experience, Traver is a highly sought-after transformational coach in the fields of consciousness, relationship, and personal development. Some topics we cover in this conversation include:

Why we fear hitting rock bottom

Why we’re wired to seek comfort vs. seek change

How challenging situations allow us to become a new version of ourselves

Why we are inclined to hit rock bottom before we make change

The roles that denial & ego play in avoiding painful situations

The power of choice

How we get in our own way of going after the things we want in our lives

How we create narratives for ourselves that unknowingly limit us

Why we prefer to play the victim vs our own hero