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Ever wish you could hang out with a smart, funny, sexy divorced bff who could tell you how she does it all? Now you can! Join certified life coach Quinn Otrera each week as she spills the tea on everything from co-parenting with an angry ex to getting your sexy back to creating an intentional path for growth to getting a restraining order – not necessarily in that order. Buckle up, girlfriend! It’s time for your post-divorce glow-up!
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In this week’s episode, I dive into An Immense World by Ed Yong and what it teaches us about life after divorce. Aristotle may have told us we only have five senses (he was wrong about that and about women), but neuroscience shows we actually have 20+ ways of perceiving the world. And here’s the magic: divorce is like being dropped into a brand-new sensory universe. The signals you relied on in marriage don’t apply anymore—you get to recalibrate, upregulate, and expand your perception of life...
Quinn gets real about estrangement: when a child requests no contact, how do you keep loving without self-erasure? In this intimate conversation, Quinn shares their experience with an adult son who cut contact in November 2023, the grief of “losing someone who’s still alive,” and the radical shift from controlling outcomes to controlling self: nervous system care, boundaries, honest self-inventory, and clean apologies grounded in Pete Walker’s framework. Key takeaways Two truths can coexist: ...
Quinn opens with a personal update on last week’s co-parenting conversation with Britta and why the extended chat now lives on Britta’s Substack. From there, Quinn digs into a hard question: How do we ethically glow up when Gaza, Sudan, Ukraine, ICE raids, creeping fascism, and inflation are part of daily life? Her answer: a glow-up ≠ vanity. It’s alignment. It’s choosing where to invest (time, money, energy) and where to divest (relationships, brands, beliefs, guilt) so your life becomes a l...
Quinn and Britta dive into one of the most gut-wrenching challenges women face when considering or navigating divorce: the “agony” of 50/50 custody. How do you cope with the heartbreak of being away from your kids—even if your co-parent is safe and trustworthy? And what if you’re the one who has always been the anchor parent, the one who knows the bedtime routine, the favorite snacks, the little cues no one else sees? 💔 In this episode, we talk about: The grief and fear of losing time with yo...
What if the things you think you’re “bad at” aren’t flaws, but simply skills you haven’t practiced yet? This week’s episode is about stripping away the shame and drama around struggle and seeing it for what it is: a skill you can learn. I share a moment with my health coach that completely shifted my perspective—when she told me that eating three meals a day instead of snacking was “just a skill.” Those three little words took the heaviness out of the struggle and opened the door to an entire...
Too many women wear divorce like a scarlet letter — a permanent label that defines their worth, parenting, relationships, and future. In this episode, Quinn shares how she refuses to let divorce define her life and instead uses it as fuel to expand into new possibilities, like going back to school and building a bigger, bolder life than ever before. We’ll explore: Why “divorced” is not your permanent identity — and why you don’t owe anyone that box on a form.How divorce can make you a better ...
This week’s episode is a love letter to one of the riskiest, most liberating beliefs I’ve ever adopted: It is safe to rely on the generosity and honesty of strangers. I’m sharing the story of how buying a quirky little car on eBay completely rewired how I move through life as a divorced woman, single parent, and human navigating the daily grind. We’ll talk about: How divorce and betrayal shrink your “trust radius”Why suspicion feels safe but is actually a prisonWhat Diana Chapman’s worl...
Divorce may be the end of a marriage, but it’s not the end of your becoming. In this episode, Quinn gets personal and powerful about what it’s like to go back to school in your 50s, what it means to reinvent your career and identity post-divorce, and why the idea that you’re “too old” or “too late” is a damn lie. From brain science to time management, from limiting beliefs to midlife clarity—this episode is a love letter to every woman who’s felt the spark to try something new but shut hersel...
We’re diving into the real reason you feel stuck—and it’s not your ex, your job, or your dating life. It’s the story your brain is telling you on repeat. Quinn shares a deeply personal moment with her ex-husband that triggered a cascade of thoughts… and how she used it as a powerful teaching moment. You'll learn how your brain is wired to protect you—not empower you—and what to do about it. This episode will show you how to: Tell the difference between facts and the story your brain is spinni...
Have you ever caught yourself thinking: “I’ll finally be okay when he apologizes.” “I’ll feel whole when I meet the right person.” “I just need closure…” That, my friend, is what we call a healing fantasy—and this week’s episode is all about busting that myth wide open. In this raw and revealing solo episode, Quinn explores the healing fantasy trap so many of us fall into post-divorce. Through personal stories, client breakthroughs, and the wisdom of thought leaders like Byr...
“Straight people, are you okay?” In part two of our electric conversation about The Tragedy of Heterosexuality by Jane Ward, Britta and Quinn leave behind history class and drop into the raw, personal reality of living inside a system not built for emotional or erotic fulfillment—especially for women. 💔 We go there: What it feels like to be in a marriage that deadens desire and gaslights your truthThe silent epidemic of women waking up every day thinking, “I wish I was dead”Sex as performanc...
In this spicy, eye-opening episode, Quinn and Britta take a wild ride through the history and heartbreak of heterosexuality—inspired by Jane Ward’s brilliant book, The Tragedy of Heterosexuality. They explore: 🕰️ The surprising history of how romantic heterosexual love was never the default—and how the invention of modern marriage was more about control than connection.🧠 The role of patriarchy and capitalism in shaping straight relationships into something that often feels unsatisfying, espec...
It’s not magic. It’s muscle memory. Quinn returns this week with a powerful message: your glow-up isn’t built in the moments of clarity—it’s built in the reps. Drawing from personal stories (including cult recovery, parenting nine kids, and coaching women post-divorce), they share how practicing calm, boundaries, and new emotional habits is the key to becoming who you really want to be. In this episode: The science + stoicism behind “we don’t rise to our expectations, we fall to our training...
It’s not about retail therapy—it’s about reclaiming your identity. In this deeply empowering episode, Quinn explores the growing trend of divorce rings and other symbolic rituals women are using to mark their rebirth after divorce. We talk about: 💍 What a divorce ring is (and isn’t) 🔥 How Beyoncé, Serena Williams, and Adele used symbols to step into power 🌀 Quinn’s personal ritual under the moon and how to find your anchor in chaos 🖋 Why name changes, tattoos, playlists, and even...
Quinn opens up about what life really looks like on the other side of divorce—from the deepest grief to the unexpected gifts. After leaving both a long-term marriage and a high-control religion, Quinn shares how the dismantling of everything familiar gave rise to a life of freedom, integrity, joy, and truth. She doesn't sugarcoat the hard stuff: loneliness, identity loss, financial stress, and fractured relationships. But she also shares the radiant rewards—reclaiming selfhood, sexual liberat...
This episode is a love letter to all of us standing at the edge of the unknown. With the school year ending and the summer holding more questions than answers, I share from my own life the real, raw process of navigating uncertainty post-divorce. From ex-husband drama to nursing school limbo, from ICE raid trainings to food rescue volunteering, I talk about the tools I’m using to show up on purpose, no matter what chaos is swirling. You’ll hear: The core question that’s guiding me right now: ...
In this episode, Quinn celebrates the end of a school year and reflects on the growth that comes from choosing courage over comfort. They dive deep into what it really costs us—emotionally, spiritually, and practically—when we don’t take action toward the lives we say we want. Drawing on Tony Robbins’ powerful Dickens Process, Jocko Willink’s concept of Extreme Ownership, and the heroine’s journey framework, this episode is your wake-up call to do the hard thing. Whether it’s leaving your hou...
Quinn answers real questions from listeners navigating the post-divorce terrain. From heavy sadness two years out, to rebuilding identity, holding space for your children's pain, and the haunting question, "What if this is it?", Quinn offers bold reframes, warm encouragement, and practical wisdom. They explore why blame feels safe, how to excavate your own desires, and why choosing yourself is the most radical and rewarding act of all. With stories, quotes, and a dose of truth-telling, this e...
We open the door to one of the most courageous and uncomfortable topics in the glow-up journey: standing up for yourself. From setting legal boundaries to confronting entitlement, Quinn introduces a bold framework to help women move from silence to strength. 🧨 Highlights include: A hair transformation and what it sparked internallyThe SPEAK framework for setting and keeping boundariesReal-life stories from clients (and Quinn’s own life) who took courageous actionThe emotional cost of silence ...
In this fiercely tender episode, Quinn explores sisu—a powerful Finnish word that describes the inner grit that rises when there’s nothing left to give but you keep showing up anyway. Drawing from their own ancestral roots, Quinn reclaims the kind of strength that isn’t about pushing harder, but about remembering who you are when the world goes quiet. This is not about hustle. This is about sacred perseverance. This is not girlboss strength. This is sisu. Through stories, reflection, an...
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