Worthy Asian

In Asian households, the Silent Treatment can be a regular discipinary practice.   This episode goes over the definitions of the Silent Treatment or Discarding, how toxic it is, and the negative effects from experiencing it. There may be triggers, and behaviours we still struggle with into our adulthood because of experiencing this that we may not fully realize. We may feel that we need to accept this treatment because they are our parents, but we do not. I share my personal experience with Discarding, and a poem I wrote, titled "No Longer Available".  We are worthy of being No Longer Available to be discarded by our parents. ~~~  If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, review, and/or share this podcast!   You can also follow on Instagram @worthyasianpodcast : www.instagram.com/worthyasianpodcast  And join our private Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/worthyasian  Email: worthyasianpodcast@gmail.com 

For some of us who have childhood trauma, we fear having children as we do not want to pass down our trauma. Sometimes we think not having children means we are truly ending the cycle of generational trauma.   Choosing whether or not to have kids is a difficult decision, and sometimes fear gets in the way of us really knowing what we want.   This episode discusses some common fears of having children for those who have experienced childhood trauma, and how we can tackle our fears in order to truly know if we are listening to what we want and ultimately making the best decision for ourselves.  ~~~  If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, review, and/or share this podcast!   You can also follow on Instagram @worthyasianpodcast : www.instagram.com/worthyasianpodcast  And join our private Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/worthyasian  Email: worthyasianpodcast@gmail.com 

There can be a lot of pressure from your Asian family to find a partner who is also Asian, but finding a great partner can be hard when we don't know what a healthy relationship looks like, and it has nothing to do with whether they are Asian or not.  If you're like me and have a non-Asian partner, then there may be a lot of cultural differences you are facing.   It may be easier to navigate when it's just the two of you, but when your family starts to grow, having a partner with a different upbringing can also mean differenting parenting styles.   This episode goes into some differences you may face and how growing, changing, and working together with these differences and with your partner can be harmonious.  ~~~  If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, review, and/or share this podcast!   You can also follow on Instagram @worthyasianpodcast : www.instagram.com/worthyasianpodcast  And join our private Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/worthyasian  Email: worthyasianpodcast@gmail.com 

Mother's Day is coming up and unfortunately for some of us, it is not a joyous or celebratory day. For some of us, these parental celebratory days are hard and emotional, a harsh reminder that we do not have a great relationship with our parents.  This episode talks about what we can do to process our feelings about this day, to hopefully make the next years to come less painful. We discuss how to "grieve" and let go of the ideal parent we always wanted/needed, and how we can come to a place of acceptance. If parental celebratory days are hard for you, I hope this episode can provide some comfort that you are not alone and provide some helpful ways to get you through it.  ~~~  If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, review, and/or share this podcast!   You can also follow on Instagram @worthyasianpodcast : www.instagram.com/worthyasianpodcast  And join our private Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/worthyasian  Email: worthyasianpodcast@gmail.com 

When you start looking for more information about childhood trauma, for your people who will understand what you are going through, you are likely to come across the terms Narcissistic Parent or Emotionally Immature Parent.   There are many similarities between the two and it can be confusing. Which fits your situation better?  This episode dives into the definition and differences, and steps you can take to better improve yourself and your life if the negative effects of these traits are wearing on you.  ~~~  If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, review, and/or share this podcast!   You can also follow on Instagram @worthyasianpodcast : www.instagram.com/worthyasianpodcast  And join our private Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/worthyasian  Email: worthyasianpodcast@gmail.com 

We're back from break! And though late to the party, this episode recaps the Academy Award Winning movie Everything Everywhere All At Once. This movie has everything: sci fi, action, comedy, drama - and importantly, it represents and understands Asians, our culture, our upbringings, our struggles. The story shares about generational trauma, family dynamics, mental health, and how it is never too late to work on relationships and emotional connections. Personally, it was an emotional movie for me that I needed to be mentally prepared for.   There are spoilers, so this episode is good for those who need an overview of what this movie entails before deciding if they can watch it, and also good for those who've seen the movie and want to rehash some epic and emotional moments.  *Please note* There will be a change to our podcast schedule, episodes will now be released every other Monday. Thank you for your understanding!  ~~~  If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, review, and/or share this podcast!   You can also follow on Instagram @worthyasianpodcast : www.instagram.com/worthyasianpodcast  And join our private Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/worthyasian  Email: worthyasianpodcast@gmail.com 

This episode concludes our topic of complicated relationships with our parents by discussing if and how much do we owe our parents. Asian culture is talked about and how it is tradition for us to care for our elders, the complexities involved with helping our parents especially when there is trauma, and how much is enough? I mention Yvette Cirule, I attended one of her Self Love Workshops and you can find her at: www.yvettecirule.com She introduced me to the works of Louise Hay, a well known Self Help author with many bestsellers. The one I have read and reccomend so far is "You Can Heal Your Life". Find more about her work at: www.louisehay.com *Please note* I will be taking a short break to enjoy family visiting and Easter Holidays. Next episode will be out Monday, April 10, 2023. Thank you for your understanding! ~~~ If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, review, and/or share this podcast!   You can also follow on Instagram @worthyasianpodcast : www.instagram.com/worthyasianpodcast And join our private Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/worthyasian Email: worthyasianpodcast@gmail.com

This is Part 3 on the topic of complicated relationships with our parents. It is commonly said that "they showed love differently". This episode discusses the love languages and ways our Asian parents tried to show us love, to try and understand where they were coming from, but to also understand and accept how it may not have been enough for us. And if it was not enough for us, what can we do about it now? ~~~ If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, review, and/or share this podcast!   You can also follow on Instagram @worthyasianpodcast : www.instagram.com/worthyasianpodcast And join our private Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/worthyasian Email: worthyasianpodcast@gmail.com

Continuing on the topic about complicated relationships with our parents, this second part is about believing they did the best they could. When we are stuck in our hurt and pain, it is hard to understand that their actions were the best they could do. And it gets even stickier when perhaps we can believe that they did the best they could back then, but it doesn't feel so true for right now. Right now, where the time and resources are different, yet the behaviours and outcomes are still the same. This episode also starts the conversation on buiding some healthy boundaries, because even though it may be their best, we are allowed to say we want and deserve better. ~~~ If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, review, and/or share this podcast!   You can also follow on Instagram @worthyasianpodcast : www.instagram.com/worthyasianpodcast And join our private Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/worthyasian Email: worthyasianpodcast@gmail.com

What's more complicated than the relationships we have with our parents? So complicated that it's been broken down into 3 Episodes. This first part goes over how we can come to terms with the fact that our parents were hurt themselves, or had a hard life and have their own traumas, and this pain ultimately lead them to hurting us as well. It's important for us to recognize that giving compassion and understanding around this does not condone their actions, and that we have the power to change this for ourselves so the behavioural pattern does not have to continue. ~~~ If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, review, and/or share this podcast! You can also follow on Instagram @worthyasianpodcast : www.instagram.com/worthyasianpodcast And join our private Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/worthyasian Email: worthyasianpodcast@gmail.com

How do I love me? Let me count the ways... Valentine's Day is around the corner but instead of focusing on love for others, this episode is all about SELF LOVE. It is uncommon in an Asian household to hear words of affection like "I love you", and so we often grow up not knowing how to love ourselves since it appeared and felt like we were unlovable. It took many years of conditioning to get where we are now, but perhaps this exercise shared this episode can be the start of us getting to a different place in our lives, where we do love ourselves and we do know our worth. ~~~ If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, review, and/or share this podcast!   You can also follow on Instagram @worthyasianpodcast : www.instagram.com/worthyasianpodcast And join our private Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/worthyasian Email: worthyasianpodcast@gmail.com

Do you know how your body holds onto trauma? How it tells you something is wrong? This episode begins the discussion about how suppressed emotions and feelings do not simply just go away, they manifest into something else that can affect our body and our health. Listen to Shana share some experiences around physical ailments like migraines, GERD (gastroensophageal reflux disease), and body paralysis to learn more about how body holds onto trauma, to make potential discoveries for yourself, and what you can do to get on a path to healing. ~~~ If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, review, and/or share this podcast!   You can also follow on Instagram @worthyasianpodcast : www.instagram.com/worthyasianpodcast  And join our private Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/worthyasian Email: worthyasianpodcast@gmail.com

Have you ever wondered about the stories behind the traditons around Lunar New Year? Why we wear red, have lion dances, or what is the significance of the special dishes we eat? Some of us may have grown up not really knowing or understanding the history, so here is a basic run down of why and how some practices came to be in order bring in luck for the New Year! I reference quickly a few children’s books that I’ll be sharing with my 4 year old Daughter. Mr. Men: Little Miss Chinese New Year by Roger Hargreaves Yuxi, Yichen, and Chinese New Year by Emma Li The Great Race: Story of the Chinese Zodiac by Ling and Eric Lee ~~~ If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, review, and/or share this podcast!   You can also follow on Instagram @worthyasianpodcast : www.instagram.com/worthyasianpodcast And join our private Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/worthyasian Email: worthyasianpodcast@gmail.com

Do you have a Parent Wound? This episode defines what a Parent wound is and shares 10 examples of signs to look out for in ourselves so that we can become aware. For example, behaviours like people pleasing and perfectionism, these actually stem from a parent wound. Becoming aware allows us to feel compassion and understanding for ourselves, and it gives us back our power to realize that we have the ability to change these behaviours that no longer serve us. ~~~ If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, review, and/or share this podcast!   You can also follow on Instagram @worthyasianpodcast : www.instagram.com/worthyasianpodcast And join our private Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/worthyasian Email: worthyasianpodcast@gmail.com

Who is Shana and why should you listen? This first episode is a quick intro about Shana, how this podcast came to fruition, and why it is an important topic. Do you acknowledge your childhood trauma? Have you worked through the pain, or have you just locked it away? Do you know what it means to be triggered? There is a difference between knowing and acknowledging VS knowing and ignoring our trauma, our hurt inner child.  If we are in the latter group, it is time to move closer to acknowledging, because that pain will resurface, and it will usually be untimely and inconvenient, and feel out of control. We need to truly acknowledge and process our pain in order  to move forward to heal.   ~~~ If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, review, and/or share this podcast!   You can also reach out on Instagram @worthyasianpodcast : www.instagram.com/worthyasianpodcast And join our private Facebook community for support: www.facebook.com/groups/worthyasian Email: worthyasianpodcast@gmail.com

Growing up with Asian parents often meant strict households with little affection and questionable disciplinary practices. This may have resulted in childhood trauma and your subconscious believing you are not worthy of things like love. We don’t realize how much this affects us in our adult lives and the lives of the people we love.  This podcast is about unpacking the complexities of childhood trauma, digging deep to discover our younger self and reparenting our inner child in order to heal. It is about finding compassion, love, and understanding for ourselves, and perhaps our parents too.  How we grew up doesn’t have to be our legacy, we can stop passing down generational trauma. It starts with work we do on ourselves, and we start January 16, 2023. Join us every Monday for a new episode. WE ARE WORTHY. Much love from your host and fellow worthy Asian,  Shana  You can also follow on Instagram @worthyasianpodcast : www.instagram.com/worthyasianpodcast And join our private Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/worthyasian Email: worthyasianpodcast@gmail.com