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🎙️Ask Me Anything – E20: Am I Really Selfish for Not Visiting My Dad More?

🎙️Ask Me Anything – E20: Am I Really Selfish for Not Visiting My Dad More?

Update: 2025-09-22
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In this episode, I respond to a question from an anonymous listener who writes:

“My dad keeps saying I ‘never come see him’ but he’s never once offered to drive to me. I’ve got two kids, a job, and no extra money for travel. Am I really the selfish one here?”

If you’ve ever been guilted into visiting a parent — even when your life is stretched thin — you’re not alone. We unpack the expectation that adult children should always be the ones to make visits happen, and why that’s not fair or sustainable.

Inside this episode, we’ll talk about:

  • Why “you never visit me” guilt trips hurt more than they help
  • The imbalance adult children face when parents expect one-sided effort
  • How guilt erodes connection instead of creating it
  • Practical ways to respond that honor both your reality and your relationship

If you’ve ever felt selfish or ungrateful for saying “no” to a visit, this episode is for you.

📝 Want to submit a question for a future episode?

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⁠Submit here⁠ anonymously or with your name — whatever feels safest for you.

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🧠 If this episode spoke to you, share it with someone who might need it. Let’s break the silence — together.

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💬 Visits should be about joy and mutual effort — not guilt or obligation.

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🎙️Ask Me Anything – E20: Am I Really Selfish for Not Visiting My Dad More?

🎙️Ask Me Anything – E20: Am I Really Selfish for Not Visiting My Dad More?

Kyira Wackett