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🎙️Ask Me Anything – E19: Why Does It Feel Like I’m Always the Bad Guy for Not Calling My Mom?

🎙️Ask Me Anything – E19: Why Does It Feel Like I’m Always the Bad Guy for Not Calling My Mom?

Update: 2025-09-15
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In this episode, I respond to a question from an anonymous listener who writes:

“Why does it always feel like I’m the bad guy for not calling my mom every day when she could just as easily call me? I’m exhausted and somehow it’s still on me.”

If you’ve ever felt guilty for not calling enough — or been shamed for not doing more to “keep the relationship alive” — you’ll connect with this one. We explore the guilt adult children often feel when parents put the responsibility of connection entirely on them, and what it takes to set that weight down.

Inside this episode, we’ll talk about:

  • Why this guilt doesn’t actually belong to you
  • The myth of “role reversal” in adult parent–child relationships
  • How guilt trips erode connection instead of building it
  • Practical ways to respond to “You never call me” without caving or overexplaining

If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly cast as the “bad guy” in your relationship with a parent, this episode is for you.

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🧠 If this episode spoke to you, share it with someone who might need it. Let’s break the silence — together.

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💬 Love should feel mutual, not one-sided. You don’t have to carry the relationship alone.

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🎙️Ask Me Anything – E19: Why Does It Feel Like I’m Always the Bad Guy for Not Calling My Mom?

🎙️Ask Me Anything – E19: Why Does It Feel Like I’m Always the Bad Guy for Not Calling My Mom?

Kyira Wackett