In this episode, the Vallottons share some insights after their recent experience when Jason handled solo parenting for six days while Lauren was away. Families can set themselves up for success during these times by paying attention to the following categories and planning ahead!

Prep for Leaving:

• Ask the Right Questions: Before you leave, ask your partner if there's anything specific they would love you to do or set up. It's important to know their actual needs versus what you think might help. 
• Babysitters and Meals: Arrange for babysitters and meal planning in advance to reduce the stress on your partner.
• Household Tasks: Take care of essential household tasks before leaving to ensure a smooth operation while you're away.
• Lists: Create a list of important information, but don’t be surprised if it’s not needed.
• Packing: Don’t wait until the last minute to pack. Being prepared ahead of time reduces stress for everyone.

Setting the Kids Up for Success:

• Thoughtful Gestures: Find ways to help the kids feel connected while you're gone.
• FaceTime Flexibility: Don’t force FaceTime calls if the kids are not in the right mood. It's better to have quality conversations when everyone is in a good place.
• Routine Maintenance: Keep the kids' routine as consistent as possible, even when one parent is away. This helps provide stability.
• Activity Planning: Make a plan for fun activities the kids will enjoy.

Couples Connect:

• Virtual Dates: It’s possible to have an intimate date via FaceTime. Set aside time to connect as a couple even when apart.
• Processing Time: Allow each other time to process the separation and share feelings, even while apart.
• Small Touchpoints: Send small, thoughtful messages or texts to stay connected throughout the day.

Think About Re-Entry Ahead of Time:

• Itinerary Planning: Consider your return itinerary based on your needs and those of the family.
• Expectation Management: Acknowledge that being away is not always a vacation. Coming home might not mean feeling refreshed. Plan accordingly to accommodate both partners' needs.
• Physical Intimacy: It's important to discuss and manage expectations about sex when returning from a trip.
• Re-entry Stress: Talk as a couple about potential re-entry stress and how to mitigate it.

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