82. Parenting the Hard Stuff: Technology
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Biggest Challenges Parents Face:
The primary challenges include managing the pervasive presence of technology and its impact on children. Parents must prioritize training their children in godly principles. The need for intentionality is crucial, as the internet is actively influencing and potentially addicting children to screens.
45% of teens report being online almost constantly (Pew Research Center). The average age for creating a first social media account is 12.6 years. Parents must evaluate their own technology use to effectively guide their children.
Technology's Influence on Development:
Technology affects emotional, social, and cognitive development, particularly in early childhood. Excessive screen time can lead to:
- Addiction due to dopamine hits
- A lack of essential life skills, resulting in instant gratification, a false sense of accomplishment and poor relationship/communication skills
- Decreased attention spans:
- The AAP recommends no more than one 1 of screen time per day for children aged 2 to 5 and consistent limits for older kids. Kids aged 8 to 12 spend an average of 4.75 hours on screens daily (2023 study).
- 60% of parents with children aged 8 to 12 are worried about online privacy.
- Nearly 40% of children aged 10 to 17 report being bullied online.
Practical Suggestions:
- Teach children that trust and connection are the most valuable commodities. “If I trust you, you get so much freedom.”
- Create age-appropriate boundaries for technology use.
- Enforce boundaries without fostering conflict or resentment.
- Encourage children to set their own boundaries.
- Delay giving children phones until at least 8th grade.
- Establish a bedtime for phones.
- Consider options like the GABB phone and Bark phone
- Tailor screen time based on the level of freedom your child can handle.
Recommended Resources:
- Defend Young Minds - Vallotton affiliate links
- Amazon affiliate link to books
- Protect Young Eyes
- Common Sense Media
Guests: Cole & Caitlin Zick, Pastors of Risen King Church in Redding, CA, and Former Directors of Moral Revolution
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