In today's episode, I'm talking about bad days on the weight loss journey. Here's the link I mentioned to Jocko Willink's Good speech. An AI generated transcript is below.  

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Thanks. In today's episode, we're going to talk about bad days on the weight loss journey. Now, the thing about bad days is that when you're going through it, they're not fun. They're actually quite bad. That's why we call them a bad day. And I know that it sounds trite, you know, when when someone says, oh, well, there's always a silver lining in every, you know, bad thing.

If you just look on the positive side, some good can come of it. But I have found that this is so true on the weight loss journey. I thought it might be helpful to take you through several different specific examples of my own weight loss journey to show you how you know, some of the roughest times that I had were actually the things that ended up being the best for me.

And I'm just going to go in chronological order. So the first bad day I had was my I've had enough moment. Now, for those of you who have not heard this story. I got tagged in some Facebook photos back in March of 2014. And as I sat there in the bathroom, you know, I remember logging in to Facebook and I and I saw these notifications and it said, Oh, you've been tagged in some photos.

And I remember thinking, oh, I wonder, well, you know, when would was that from? And that I thought, well, it's probably just, you know, just my kids because I always avoided the camera. So when I clicked on the notification, I started seeing all these pictures. I was like swiping through and I didn't recognize myself. And I remember in that moment I was so humiliated.

I was embarrassed. I was really angry at the person who had posted the pictures. I was angry at Facebook for having the stupid tagging feature. I remember being very upset, just, you know, crying. And I remember thinking, you know, maybe my family would be better off without me. And in that moment, I called out to God. I was like, I, I need help.

You know, I can't do this alone. So even though that was my low point, it was also this turning point that happened to me because it was in that moment that very, very low time when things started to change. As soon as I said that little prayer, I remember just having some clarity, just, you know, like just sitting there, things that I really had not realized until that moment I started to realize.

And one thing was I realized that all this anger that I was feeling and I mean, I was blaming everybody. I was really mad at everybody else. You know, I was mad at the person who had posted the photos. I was mad at Facebook. I was mad at all the fast food companies. I was mad at all the food companies in general.

I was mad at my kids because I thought, well, it was the pregnancy's that really put on this weight of the minute. My husband, because he never had to worry about his weight. You know, I was just mad at everybody. And then as I sat there, I realized I have no one else to blame. This all falls on me because I am the one who took every bite of food.

I am the one who, you know, decided every day, you know, should I sit here or should I go for a walk or should I, you know, this bag of chips or should I just not? And from that day forward, even though it was by no means an overnight transformation, because you'll you'll hear, you know, how long this whole process took.

But but it was the start out of doing just a little bit better with my eating doing just a little bit better with my relationships, communicating just a little bit better, taking a little bit of time for myself, you know, trying not to be resentful of things, trying to say no to people so that I wouldn't be resentful.

But it all started because of one really bad day. So, you know, time rocked on and almost a whole year passed with no real progress being made, even though I knew, like, okay, I want to lose weight. I was trying to figure things out, but I wasn't really taking any action, not consistently and not the appropriate kind of action that would actually help me lose weight.

I was in the gym. I had I was there like on a free seven day trial thing, and I was working out really hard. And and I realized, like, I really need to go weigh myself. And this was a very difficult thing for me to do because I had not weighed in years. I mean, I had had my third child and had not weighed.

And I knew that, you know, I wasn't going to like the number, but I was pretty sure I was pretty sure the number would be like 185. I thought know, probably like 175, but maybe it's 185, maybe it's gotten that bad. And so I got up the nerve. I was like, okay, I just I need to look at that number.

I've got to know. So I went to the locker room and I climbed up on the scale. And then I looked at the number and I saw £222 staring back at me. And I felt like I had just gotten socked in the gut. You know, I was I was just so embarrassed yet again about like, how far off I was in my self-perception.

And so I felt really bad in that moment. It was a really bad day when that happened. But I learned something really important in that day, which was I had the power to make it so that I was never in that place again, that I was never blindsided by what I weighed, because that was the day that I'd decided, okay, daily weighing, that's for me.

I just, you know, I'm going away for the rest of my life so that I always just know where I'm at with my weight. And I think that has been a huge reason why I was able to not only lose the weight, but more importantly, keep it off, because it has kept me accountable in maintenance, which is where I always struggled.

About four months after I weighed myself for the first time, I had another really bad day and that was the day that I injured my back doing a deadlift. Now I had lost about £17 by that point and so I was making pretty good progress. Now, I didn't think at the time I really kind of thought, I'm not losing weight nearly fast enough.

I don't really hurry up, which is one big reason why I injured my back because I was pushing myself too hard. But I remember, you know, I went to do this deadlift and I knew that it was really heavy. And you know, there was a thing in the back of my mind that said, this is probably a bit too heavy.

I should wait until I can do this. Lower weight was really good form and, and then, you know, move up.