[00:01:12 ] So today I'm talking to Christina. Christina, where are you at in the world? Good morning.

[00:01:16 ] Christina: [00:01:16 ] I'm in Venice, California. Venice beach.

[00:01:19 ] dane: [00:01:19 ] And what's your big goal for the call?

[00:01:21 ] Christina: [00:01:21 ] Well, I really want to launch some online courses. It's just shifting gears, doing something I've really never done before and I need help.

[00:01:31 ] dane: [00:01:31 ] What's the ultimate goal with the courses that do for you?

[00:01:35 ] Christina: [00:01:35 ] Well, it will give me more time. Right now, I trade my time for income. I'm a personal chef. And I really want to start creating products so that I can, you know, have a little more financial freedom and a little more time. It's

[00:01:50 ] dane: [00:01:50 ] kind of thing. So let's just get really clear on this.

[00:01:53 ] You want to stop trading time for money.

[00:01:56 ] Christina: [00:01:56 ] Exactly.

[00:01:57 ] dane: [00:01:57 ] Can you just say that

[00:01:58 ] Christina: [00:01:58 ] I want to stop [00:02:00 ] trading my time for money?

[00:02:01 ] dane: [00:02:01 ] What happens when you share that? It makes me

[00:02:03 ] Christina: [00:02:03 ] nervous because this is how I've made my income my entire life.

[00:02:08 ] dane: [00:02:08 ] Is there any sadness?

[00:02:11 ] Christina: [00:02:11 ] Yeah, because I know that there's only so much time and I can only make so much money, you know, by the hour kind of thing.

[00:02:18 ] It just doesn't make sense. I know all my friends that have real wealth, you know, invest their money or you know, make money in different ways. Passive income. So I really want to start doing that. I'm getting older.

[00:02:30 ] dane: [00:02:30 ] Oh, you're getting older.

[00:02:32 ] Christina: [00:02:32 ] Yes.

[00:02:33 ] dane: [00:02:33 ] So this is a biological clock thing kind of.

[00:02:37 ] Christina: [00:02:37 ] Well, just the fact that, you know, as a chef, I spend all of my time on my feet and it's physically exhausting.

[00:02:46 ] I mean, I just, you know, did a dinner on Friday night for a big group of people and I was dead on Saturday, you know, I could barely get out of bed. I was so tired from all the energy I put forth for that.

[00:02:59 ] dane: [00:02:59 ] How much did you make.

[00:03:01 ] Christina: [00:03:01 ] About $1,200 so embarrassing to say that because that's not that much money in the big picture

[00:03:09 ] dane: [00:03:09 ] for a night of work.

[00:03:10 ] Christina: [00:03:10 ] Yeah. It wasn't one night, you know, it was planning, menu, planning, shopping, prepping, cooking, all of that, cleaning.

[00:03:18 ] dane: [00:03:18 ] Is it possible to hire help for those things that, so you're not so tired?

[00:03:23 ] Christina: [00:03:23 ] It's possible, but that means that I would make less money. Right? I would have to take that out of my net profit. And

[00:03:31 ] dane: [00:03:31 ] you'd have your Saturday.

[00:03:32 ] Christina: [00:03:32 ] That's true. I mean, when I was younger, you know, this is the age part, you know, I had a lot more energy now, you know, it's just kind of, you know, I need more recovery time. I'm in my forties

[00:03:45 ] dane: [00:03:45 ] so I'm asking these questions just to kind of get a deeper feel for you. I want to ask about what kind of quality of life are you looking for?

[00:03:53 ] Christina: [00:03:53 ] Well, I would like to be able to travel when I want to. I would like to have more [00:04:00 ] financial freedom. I would like to have my dream kitchen. I would like to have a garden. So, you know, right now I live in a small apartment. Which is big enough for me. It's lovely, but I don't have the kind of kitchen that I would like.

[00:04:12 ] I would just like to have more financial freedom to make choices and travel and do the things I want to do and to learn more, which, you know, more income gives me more choices.

[00:04:21 ] dane: [00:04:21 ] Is any of this painful to be talking about.

[00:04:24 ] Christina: [00:04:24 ] It's a little embarrassing. Yes. Well, you know, I would like to be living at a higher level of success than I currently am right now.

[00:04:34 ] That said, I'm very appreciative and grateful for all the wonderful things that I have done and that have, you

[00:04:40 ] dane: [00:04:40 ] know, you want a better life and you're embarrassed. You're not there yet.

[00:04:46 ] Christina: [00:04:46 ] A little bit. Yeah. Because of my age. Yes. And I see a lot of my friends and people that are a lot younger than me that are a lot more successful than I am.

[00:04:55 ] I mean, I hate to say that I'm comparing myself, but it's not even a thing of comparison. I'm in my forties

[00:05:01 ] dane: [00:05:01 ] well, the comparison is just a reflection of the dissatisfaction. Sure. You know, you're dissatisfied. Like if you had your dream kitchen, your dream garden, your freedom to travel and your freedom to learn, do you think you'd compare yourself.

[00:05:15 ] No. Yeah. So if you're comparing yourself to me, are you comparing yourself to anybody? That's a real good indicator. Just look in a mirror and see where you're dissatisfied. So let's just say that again. Let's say you have your dream kitchen, your dream garden, and you can travel. And you have freedom to learn.

[00:05:34 ] Christina: [00:05:34 ] That makes me happy.

[00:05:35 ] dane: [00:05:35 ] Were there some tears the first time I said it? Do you remember? Okay. Your eyes started to get wet when I mentioned the first time and I was just curious about allowing that to expand and so the more deeply felt this is in your body. The less judgment you'll have around it and you know, the more action you'll take, et cetera.

[00:05:53 ] Christina: [00:05:53 ] Yeah, it does excite me. It's amazing. As a private chef, I go into other people's incredible kitchens and homes and [00:06:00 ] it's amazing how much food I produce out of my tiny little kitchen here.

[00:06:04 ] dane: [00:06:04 ] How would it feel for every person you cook for? Do you get to talk to the owner at all?

[00:06:10 ] Christina: [00:06:10 ] Yeah, every circumstance is different, but yes, generally, absolutely.

[00:06:13 ] Yes,

[00:06:14 ] dane: [00:06:14 ] I do. What if you said something like this to these owners? I have dreams of expanding my business and one day owning a kitchen as beautiful as yours.

[00:06:23 ] Christina: [00:06:23 ] Are you suggesting I say that?

[00:06:25 ] dane: [00:06:25 ] Yep. You're going to say, I have dreams of expanding my business and one day owning a kitchen as beautiful as yours. Oh, wow.

[00:06:33 ] Do you think that you'd ever have a minute? Tell me how you got to where you are.

[00:06:37 ] Christina: [00:06:37 ] Oh,

[00:06:40 ] dane: [00:06:40 ] and you want to do that very gently feeling the situation. Cause they might be like, Oh, I'm busy. What do you mean? Talk to you about this. So you can just say the first sentence and what you're doing and you're not saying it for them.

[00:06:50 ] You're saying it for you. Every kitchen you go into that you look at instead of envy, jealousy, disappointment, dissatisfaction, sadness. You're going to say, I have dreams of expanding my business and one day owning a kitchen as beautiful as yours, and then based on their response, Oh, this would be fire if he says something like this, potentially you say, I dunno if you'd ever find it in your heart to mentor a little old chef like me, but if you did, I'd be very grateful.

[00:07:21 ] Okay. That's not so much about how they'll mentor you or what they'll say. It's about watching people support your dream, seeing that people want it for you, seeing that the universe wants it for you. And if someone says no, that's more of a reflection of many circumstances than it is of if you're worthy of this dream or not.

[00:07:41 ] But if you phrase it along the lines of, I don't know if you'd ever find it in your heart to be able to mentor a little chef like me, but if you are, I'd be grateful. And if not, that's totally okay. Now every kitchen you go into is going to deposit like this special vibration. You know, man, when I was [00:08:00 ] 27 I was starting to really get a hang of this and I got my hands on the right books, Christina and I read them.

[00:08:05 ] It took about four years for my brain to acclimate. So the friends that you're talking about that have the wealth and have these courses and you're like, why can't I do that? Or this or that? Why do they, they have a different brain that you could build, but you need to take time to build the brain. Okay, so we're going to get into that.

[00:08:20 ] But what I want to say, so I was 27 I had a real, a business selling software to real estate agents. And I went to Las Vegas and I must as one of my clients. So she says, well, make sure you talk to me when you come in town. And he's had really good relationships with my customers. I visit them when I come into town.

[00:08:35 ] I don't know many entrepreneurs that do that. One tiny thing I did. Spend