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Episode 186 - How to Rebuild Emotional Connection in Marriage with EFT Attachment Questions 

Have you ever felt like you and your spouse are speaking different languages? Like no matter how hard you try, the two of you just keep missing each other? 

You’re not alone. Many couples struggle with emotional disconnection—not because they don’t love each other, but because they don’t know how to answer the real questions underneath the conflict. 

In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, I share: 

• A personal story from my early marriage that shows how easy it is to miss each other emotionally.
• The three powerful attachment questions from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) that can completely shift the way you relate to your partner.
• Why “being there” for your spouse is about emotional presence—not just doing things for them.
• How we actually keep choosing our partner every single day—not just when we said “I do.”
• The truth about bids for connection—and why so many of us miss them.
• Practical steps you can take this week to show up differently and begin rebuilding emotional connection in your marriage.

Whether you’ve been married for five years or thirty-five, learning to answer these three questions—Are you there for me? Do I matter to you? Will you turn toward me?—can help you rebuild trust, deepen intimacy, and create a more secure bond with your spouse.

If you’ve been feeling distant, disconnected, or like you’re living more like roommates than partners, this episode will give you both insight and actionable steps to start creating change.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
 

• Episode 180 with Leah Davidson: How Your Nervous System Shapes Reactions, Relationships, and Resilience 

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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