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The Return Loop: Why We Second-Guess Ourselves — and What It’s Really About

The Return Loop: Why We Second-Guess Ourselves — and What It’s Really About

Update: 2025-12-04
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Struggling with overthinking, decision fatigue, perfectionism, or second-guessing yourself? This episode unpacks the psychology of self-trust, emotional regulation, buyer’s remorse, and why we repeat habits we know aren’t aligned — plus simple inside-out tools to break the loop.

If you’ve ever bought something you weren’t sure about… only to return it later… this episode is for you.

But it’s also for you if you’ve ever second-guessed yourself, overridden your intuition, people-pleased your way into a “yes,” or held onto something long after you knew it didn’t fit.

In today’s episode, Susan shares a surprisingly emotional look at her long-running “buy-and-return” habit — and how a single junk drawer in her house revealed a much deeper pattern:

a self-trust loop.

The kind that shows up in shopping…

but also in relationships, commitments, boundaries, decisions, dreams, and everyday life.

Inside, you’ll hear:

✨ What the “return loop” actually represents

(not self-control… but self-trust)

✨ Why our nervous systems cling to familiar patterns

(even when we’ve outgrown them)

✨ The subtle ways we override ourselves

in dressing rooms, in conversations, in choices, and in moments of doubt

✨ How to notice your own version of the loop

whether it’s shopping, relationships, procrastination, people-pleasing, or emotional clutter

✨ A gentle, inside-out way to shift the pattern

so you choose from alignment, not anxiety

✨ A simple 3-question practice

to help you reconnect to your intuition before you hit “buy,” “send,” or “say yes”

This episode is cozy, honest, a little funny, and deeply validating — especially if you’ve ever felt stuck between wanting something… and not trusting yourself enough to choose it.

And if you’d like a little grounding support this week, Susan created something for you:

💗 The Come Home to Yourself Reset

A short, calming, pay-what-you-want audio experience to help you reconnect with yourself anytime life feels loud.
Get it here: https://love-from-the-inside-out.kit.com/products/come-home-to-yourself-reset

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Every moment is a chance to come home to you.

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🎶 Music Credit:
“Seize the Day” by Andrey Rossi, via #Uppbeat (uppbeat.io/t/andrey-rossi/seize-the-day)

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The Return Loop: Why We Second-Guess Ourselves — and What It’s Really About

The Return Loop: Why We Second-Guess Ourselves — and What It’s Really About

Susan Kricun