Welcome to another relationship edition of the Leading Empowered podcast! In this episode, I’m sharing my answer to one of the most common questions I’ve gotten from day 1 of my coaching practice, and that is, “what do I do if my partner isn’t doing the inner “work.” The “work” is often defined as personal development, meditation, working with a coach or therapist, etc. 

This is a somewhat loaded question with a lot of elements to consider. Today, I’m offering 3 suggestions to help you navigate what to do if your partner isn’t doing the inner “work” to grow like you are. 

As we talk through this topic, remember that every day is a chance to start again. You can always choose, at any moment, to shift your energy and lean into this inner work yourself, despite what your partner does or doesn’t do. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 3 suggestions for what to do if your partner isn’t doing the inner “work.” 

• Tip #1: Acknowledge that this is annoying, frustrating, and worrisome for the partner that is doing the work. Despite this, stay on your path. Try not to give as much attention to the fact that your partner isn’t doing the work that you are. 

• A lot of people, especially men, learn through experience and need to try it out before committing to doing the work. 

• The “work” your partner ends up doing will likely be completely different than what you’re doing. The masculine is more Type A and the feminine is more Type B, therefore, they need different types of work to grow. 

• The more we can get in a place of acceptance, the more we can stay on our path. 

• Trust that your partner’s soul guidance will take them exactly where they need to go and grow. 

• Tip #2: Your energy is contagious, and what you’re modeling is everything. If you want more of something in your relationship, commit to doing that yourself, and it will be contagious. 

• Tip #3: What you say, what you communicate, and how you communicate will naturally shift if you focus on your own energy and your own inner work. 

• How to respond with and circulate more joy. 

• Realigning your energy to what you want to be experiencing and your essence doesn’t require your partner to do their own work. You can start and they can learn from you and their own process. 

• Even though they’re not doing what you deem as “work,” there is some aspect of work they’re doing, in their own way. 

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