How do you introduce chastity to your partner without them "running for the hills"? For "Alan," a longtime chastity enthusiast, this conversation has been a series of "crashes and burns."

He'd come in like a "bull in a china shop," treat his partner as a "kink dispenser," or get lost in fantasy vs. reality

In this episode of Soul Kink Therapy, we discover the real reason his attempts fail: he's only telling half the story

Using an Internal Family Systems (IFS) process, we uncover the core wound behind his desire: a deep-seated fear of being "invisible."

We then role-play the wrong way (and the right way) to have this conversation, moving from manipulation to authentic, vulnerable devotion.

This is a masterclass in kink communication, how to ask a partner to be your keyholder, and the "Kink Paraphrasing" technique.

0:00 - Intro: Kink, Devotion & Liberation1:00 - Welcome Alan: How to Introduce Chastity to a Partner2:20 - Alan's Reframe: Chastity as a "Gift"3:45 - Host Clarifies: "What is Chastity?" (The Cage & Key)5:10 - Alan's First Experience (His "Awakening")7:15 - "Am I Still a Guy to Want This?" (Internal Battles)8:30 - Chastity as a Tool for "Focus"9:30 - The Connection: "You Become Literally Devoted"10:45 - The Big Mistakes: "Bull in a China Shop"11:30 - The "Kink Dispenser" & "Fantasy vs. Reality"12:45 - Obsessing Over the Kink13:30 - "What Are You Chasing?"14:15 - IFS Process: "Internal Family Systems"15:30 - The "Bubbly" Creature: "It Wants to Be Noticed"17:00 - The Core Wound: "Fear of Being Invisible"20:00 - Alan's Reaction: "Tense"21:15 - Why You're Only Telling Half the Story (The Wound)22:30 - "It Lands Square in the Face"24:15 - Last Time He Introduced It25:40 - "If You Don't Share, It's Curtains" (The Most Important Rule)28:00 - Role-Play: Alan's (Bad) Attempt30:00 - Deconstructing the Bad Role-Play (It's a Performance)31:30 - "It's Manipulative"32:45 - The Barbed-Wire Fence Analogy (Protecting the Wound)34:30 - The "Gift" vs. "Transactional" (Serving vs. Controlling)37:00 - "You Neglect to See the Other Person"39:00 - The Good Role-Play: Emily's Example42:00 - The "Kink Paraphrasing" Technique44:00 - "Say the Words"45:00 - Letting the Other Person Have the Floor46:00 - Final Thoughts & Wrap-up48:00 - Final Blessing for Alan50:00 - That's It for Soul Kink Therapy51:00 - Pre-recorded Outro / Call to Action (Free Course)

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