🎙️ The Lonely Chapter: Why Transformation Feels Like Losing Yourself Before You Find You

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering “Why do I feel so alone?”—this one’s for you.

In this episode, I’m diving into that uncomfortable middle space where you’re no longer who you were… but not quite who you’re becoming. We talk about the fear of rejection, why change can shake up your relationships, and how loneliness isn’t something to fear—it’s often part of the path.

I share stories from my own journey, moments that triggered emotional eating, and what I’ve learned from leaders like Mel Robbins, Alex Hormozi, and Simon Sinek about building self-trust, letting go of approval, and finding peace in solitude.

If you’re feeling stuck, disconnected, or like no one gets what you’re going through—pull up a chair. You are not alone.

💭 What we cover:

• Why personal growth can feel isolating—and why that’s totally normal
• How our brains process social rejection like physical pain
• Emotional eating as a craving for connection (not just calories)
• Why “no one is coming to save you” is the most empowering thing you can realise
• Why solitude is sacred—and loneliness is a signal, not a failure
• 4 practical ways to ride out “the lonely chapter” and keep moving forward

🔗 Links & Mentions:

• 🎧 The Way Out of the Dark podcast – Fear of rejection episode
• 📚 Paulo Coelho – Manuscript Found in Accra
• 🧠 Naomi Eisenberger (UCLA) – research on social pain and brain response
• 🎤 Mel Robbins – “No one is coming” principle
• 🎧 Alex Hormozi – Modern Wisdom episode on self-approval
• 🎙️ Simon Sinek – Diary of a CEO insights on loneliness and being seen

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And if you're going through your own lonely chapter—I see you. Keep going. You’re not lost. You’re becoming.

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