Do I Really Hate Men?

Following on from her episodes on dating, this week, Ang is taking a look at the red flags to look out for when becoming involved with a potential new partner. When you meet someone new and the sparks fly it’s sometimes easy to overlook what appear to be negative behaviours and regard them as ‘a one off’. However, these negative behaviours are often a sign of things to come. From controlling behaviours to love bombing and jealousy to communication, Ang is here to tell you her ten most common red flags, how to spot them early and, ultimately, how to make sure you find the partner you deserve.    KEY TAKEAWAYS Communication in any relationship is crucial. And it’s crucial to make sure it’s right from day one. Ang discusses the red flags to look out for regarding communication. When Ang was dating someone early after her divorce she realised that some of his behaviours were not normal and were causing Ang to adjust her lifestyle. She talks about the dangers of controlling behaviours and how to look out for them. How do you know something might be a red flag? Ang tells you the one question you can ask yourself to be certain whether your potential future partner is displaying any behaviours to be cautious of.  Meeting someone new is extremely exciting and can lead to emotions spiralling out of control. However, someone who can not control those emotions can begin to “Love Bomb”. Ang explains the concept of love bombing and how it’s actually a red flag to look out for.     BEST MOMENTS “If you can have red flags in your mind before you go on your date it can save you a lot of time and heartache.” “Controlling behaviours can begin as something small and innocent. So, be aware of them before they grow out of proportion.”   “Real love takes time to build and should evolve at a natural pace.”   EPISODE LINKS To Join the Priority List for the new book Do I Really H*te Men? - click this link https://www.inspiredbybooks.co.uk/do-i-really-hate-men To Join The Divorce and Single Parent Club https://patreon.com/user?u=114049946&utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink https://linktr.ee/angaab6 www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns To receive a FREE copy of my Divorce Success or my Parenting Success Tips - please e-mail me at Ang@doireallyhatemen.com ABOUT THE PODCAST Do I Really Hate Men? Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an ‘I hate men’ podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.    This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories. My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain,  lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed. NOTE – I need you to know that I don’t hate men! It’s important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.    ABOUT THE HOST Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.  Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.  With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience. 

This week Ang is joined by Phil Rhodes, a partner at Irwin Mitchell Solicitors, a practice that specialises in family law. For the past 20 years, Phil has focused on divorce and financial settlements. In this interview with Ang, Phil calls on his vast experience and busts the most common myths around divorce and child custody, gives a breakdown of the best way to approach divorce proceedings from the off, and shares his tips on self-care for you and your children.   KEY TAKEAWAYS There are so many myths and urban legends around the topic of divorce and rights from a legal standpoint. Ang invites Phil to put the record straight and separate fact from fiction.  One of the first things that needs to be considered when going through a divorce is temporary custody of your children. This is incredibly difficult, especially as it happens at such an early stage. Phil discusses the best way to approach this so that the emotional impact is reduced for all parties. Ang and Phil discuss the importance of self-care during a divorce and how and why this should be your number one priority.  Getting legal advice at an early stage is crucial as, without it, you can make so many mistakes and find yourself in an even more difficult position. Phil discusses some of the most common mistakes people make during a divorce and how to avoid them.    BEST MOMENTS “Find out where you are legally and what you are entitled to and then you can work with that to achieve a fair outcome.” “Reinforce with your children that you love them unconditionally and that they haven’t contributed to the divorce.” “Compromise is crucial. Without it, it’s impossible to reach a positive conclusion.”   EPISODE LINKS To Join the Priority List for the new book Do I Really H*te Men? - click this link https://www.inspiredbybooks.co.uk/do-i-really-hate-men To Join The Divorce and Single Parent Club https://patreon.com/user?u=114049946&utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink https://linktr.ee/angaab6 www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns To receive a FREE copy of my Divorce Success Tips or my Parenting Success Tips - please e-mail etc etc https://www.irwinmitchell.com/our-people/phillip-rhodes https://www.linkedin.com/in/philliprhodes1/ ABOUT THE PODCAST Do I Really Hate Men? Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an ‘I hate men’ podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.  This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories. My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain,  lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed. NOTE – I need you to know that I don’t hate men! It’s important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.    ABOUT THE HOST Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.  Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.  With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivate her audience.

To Join the Priority List for the new book Do I Really H*te Men? - click this linkhttps://www.inspiredbybooks.co.uk/do-i-really-hate-men This week, in a change to the regular program, Ang is going from interviewer to interviewee. Ang was recently a guest on the “Helping Teachers Thrive” podcast to discuss all things school and divorce. In this interview with host Tem, Ang shares her valuable insights and wisdom on how parents and teachers can support a child whose parents are going through a divorce. From warning signs in the classroom to sports days parent evenings and extra support services, Ang and Tem have you covered so that you can help your child successfully navigate through a difficult time.  KEY TAKEAWAYS The whole process of Ang’s divorce lasted over six years. During this time the effects on her boys' school life were tangible. Ang talks about how these effects manifested and looks back at some of the things she could have done differently.  How can teachers be more aware of what a child is going through? Ang shares her expertise on what is happening to children when their parents are divorcing, how this manifests, and how teachers can spot it.  Parent's evenings, sports days, and Christmas plays take on a whole new dynamic when a child has parents who are divorced. Ang shares her tips on how to make these occasions easier for your child.  Divorce affects 3 people in the school dynamic - children, parents, and teachers. Ang, and host Tem, discuss how all three parties are impacted and how they can work together to make the child’s school life as painless as possible.  BEST MOMENTS “When going through a divorce, it’s really important that you communicate with the school and let them know what is happening in your children's lives.” “Many behaviours in the classroom could be a result of divorce, so it’s important to be mindful of what the child is experiencing.” “You can’t look after your children if you’re not looking after yourself.”   EPISODE LINKS To Join My Membership Site https://patreon.com/user?u=114049946&utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink https://linktr.ee/angaab6 www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns To receive a FREE copy of my Parenting Success Tips - please e-mail me at Ang@doireallyhatemen.com   ABOUT THE PODCAST Do I Really Hate Men?   Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an ‘I hate men’ podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.  This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times it's emotionally inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories. My mission -is to help women and mothers globally recover from relationship pain,  lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed. NOTE – I need you to know that I don’t hate men! It’s important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume there are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing for their children.    ABOUT THE HOST Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25-year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a confessed self-development junkie.  Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence, she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.  With a six-year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty, and humor captivate her audience. 

Ang is continuing on from last week's show on dating, this week looking at the complex world of internet dating. Dating practices have changed dramatically over the last few years and with more and more people choosing to stay home instead of a night out, internet dating has become the most popular, and convenient, method of meeting a potential partner. But, internet dating is a minefield. Luckily, Ang is here to talk you through everything from building your profile, to safety tips, first dates ideas and the bizarre concept of ‘ghosting’. KEY TAKEAWAYS Internet dating has come a long way since its inception and the stigma around it has certainly disappeared. Ang talks about the many options available to you and the importance of finding the right one.  The key to starting any relationship, regardless of how you meet, is honesty. Ang gives her top tips on building your online dating profile and why it is important to be as honest as possible.  Safety is a key aspect to consider when you enter into the world of online dating. Somebody can pretend to be anybody on an app whilst sharing a few messages, but how do you know they are who they say they are? Ang shares her tips that will help keep you safe. Ghosting, the phenomenon of a potential partner suddenly disappearing, is all too common on dating sites. And, unfortunately, you will experience it. Ang discusses the many ways in which ghosting can present itself and how you can build a tolerance to it.  BEST MOMENTS “It’s important to be honest, why would you want to start your relationship with a lie?” “Be careful spending weeks talking to someone online. You could be building a relationship with somebody who could be anybody” “Ghosting happens all the time, but, remember, it’s always their issue and not yours.” EPISODE LINKS To Join My Membership Site https://patreon.com/user?u=114049946&utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink https://linktr.ee/angaab6 www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns To receive a FREE copy of my Parenting Success Tips - please e-mail me at Ang@doireallyhatemen.com ABOUT THE PODCAST Do I Really Hate Men? Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an ‘I hate men’ podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.  This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories. My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain,  lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed. NOTE – I need you to know that I don’t hate men! It’s important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.  ABOUT THE HOST Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.  Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.  With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience. 

This Week, Ang is diving into the confusing, complex and curious dating world this week. Dating is difficult at any time in your life but, after coming out of a divorce it can be even harder to “Get back on the horse.” Through her own experiences with dating, Ang discusses the rules of dating, what to look for in a potential partner and, most importantly, ‘how do you know you’re ready?’ But above all, you need to realise that you’ll never find someone if you’re not looking.   KEY TAKEAWAYS Dating is difficult in this day and age, there are so many questions. But, the one question that is more important than the others is, “Are you ready?”. Ang talks about how she evaluated her situation so she could finally understand when she was ready to start dating. When Ang started dating she realised what she wasn’t looking for as much as what she was. She discusses some of her red flags and talks about why you should make your own list.  When you have children there will be a time, if dating is going well, where you will have to introduce your date to your children. Ang talks about taking this big step and why you need to be sure, as this can not only affect you and your new partner but also your children. Ang shares the most important lesson she learned from dating. Understanding that it’s ok to walk away. She explains why this is so important.    BEST MOMENTS “The biggest coward of a man is to awaken the love of a woman, without the intention of loving her.” “Sometimes the love of your life comes after the biggest mistake of your life.” “Learn to love the sound of your feet walking away from the things that are not meant for you.”   EPISODE LINKS To Join My Membership Site https://patreon.com/user?u=114049946&utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink https://linktr.ee/angaab6 To receive a FREE copy of my Parenting Success Tips - please e-mail me at Ang@doireallyhatemen.com   ABOUT THE PODCAST Do I Really Hate Men? Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an ‘I hate men’ podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.  This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times it's emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories. My mission -is to help women and mothers globally recover from relationship pain,  lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed. NOTE – I need you to know that I don’t hate men! It’s important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume there are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing for their children. ABOUT THE HOST Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25-year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self-confessed self-development junkie.  Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence, she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.  With a six-year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivate her audience.

Divorce doesn’t just bring about a separation from your partner, it can, and does, bring about a separation in other parts of your life, and one of them is your home. This week on the show Ang is talking about the stressful act of moving home. An act that is made even more stressful when twined with divorce. From where to go, to what to do with the items you bought with your partner and how to reduce the stress on yourself and your children, Ang has you covered. And, as she reveals, the upheaval might just be worth it in the long run.  KEY TAKEAWAYS After Ang’s divorce she wanted to stay in the family home with her boys, to minimise any further disruption. However, it soon became clear that she needed to move. She talks about the process of moving house whilst navigating a divorce.  Moving day is stressful. In fact, everyday leading up to moving day is stressful. Ang was on her own with her two boys when she had to move house, which only added to her stress. She recounts here her memories of the days leading up to moving and how she overcame some of the challenges.  Once Ang and the boys were finally settled in the new house they discovered that the stress of moving was worth it when they began to realise all the unexpected benefits of having a new home, which Ang details.  Some people don’t, or can’t, move house after a divorce. But that doesn’t mean you can’t still have a fresh start. Ang offers her tips on how to make your existing home feel like a new one.  BEST MOMENTS “Divorce and moving house are two of the most stressful things you can experience. But, experiencing both of them at the same time is terrifying.”  “Women are like teabags. You don’t know how strong they are until you put them into hot water.” “Moving is an upheaval, but I promise it’s worth it. It’s a new start.” EPISODE LINKS To Join My Membership Site https://patreon.com/user?u=114049946&utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink https://linktr.ee/angaab6 www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns To receive a FREE copy of my Parenting Success Tips - please e-mail me at Ang@doireallyhatemen.com ABOUT THE PODCAST Do I Really Hate Men? Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an ‘I hate men’ podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.  This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories. My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain,  lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed. NOTE – I need you to know that I don’t hate men! It’s important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.  ABOUT THE HOST Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.  Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.  With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience. 

This week Ang is diving into the subject of childcare, in its various forms. Moving from co-parenting to single parenting comes with many challenges. But it also comes with many logistical changes that aren’t always apparent when you are first going through the process of divorce. The biggest of these is, who will look after your children when you and your partner are not available? In this episode, Ang breaks down the many childminding challenges she encountered and how she worked through to find solutions that worked for everyone KEY TAKEAWAYS In a marriage when you are unable to collect your children from school, your partner can do it. However this is not always the case once you have been through a divorce. Ang recollects the many aspects of her life that were affected by this change and how she overcame them. Reluctantly, Ang advertised for a childcarer. And, luckily, she found an angel. She talks about coming to this decision and the unexpected joy it brung to both her and her children. Once Ang recovered from her divorce and started dating again she realised that leaving her children with different babysitters every week was both expensive and unsettling. So, she wrestled with the idea of leaving them home alone. She discusses her thought process and the benefits of the decision she made.   BEST MOMENTS   “The right carer doesn’t just look after your children, they give you the gift of knowing your children are safe.” “Sometimes we need somebody that isn’t us to show us what to do.” “When you’re a single parent your time with your children becomes more precious. Make the most of it.”   EPISODE LINKS   To Join My Membership Site https://patreon.com/user?u=114049946&utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink   https://linktr.ee/angaab6 www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns To receive a FREE copy of my Parenting Success Tips - please e-mail me at Ang@doireallyhatemen.com                   ABOUT THE PODCAST   Do I Really Hate Men?   Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an ‘I hate men’ podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.   This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories.   My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain,  lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed.   NOTE – I need you to know that I don’t hate men! It’s important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.   ABOUT THE HOST   Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.   Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.   With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience.            

The trauma of divorce can bring about a complex mix of emotions and behaviours. And, as you navigate the tricky waters of divorce, it is the easiest thing in the world to hide everything inside and pretend that you’re ok. However, this behaviour is self destructive and will only harm you and your loved ones in the future. This week, Ang is here to talk to you about the importance of recognising your negative emotions and behaviours, from guilty mother syndrome to stress, and how to tackle them head on so that you can live your best life.  KEY TAKEAWAYS When you make the decision to end your marriage the impact this has on your children can not be understated. Naturally, this can lead to feelings of guilt and can affect how you behave. Ang discusses how to live with and process that guilt. Like most women, Ang tried to put on a brave face during the early days of her divorce. However, she soon realised that this was not healthy. She explains some of the self care methods she adopted and how they helped her. When Ang started counselling she found that her problems were not only universal and, there were strategies that she could adopt to help herself and her children, which she details here.  Stress and divorce go hand in hand. And, stress, if not managed, will only breed more stress. Ang discusses why it is important to recognise the triggers for stress and offers some invaluable tips on how to reduce your level of stress. BEST MOMENTS “A good relationship is a partnership. Give and take.” “How you deal with stress will have a direct link to your recovery from divorce.” “Being honest with yourself is the most important thing you can do.” EPISODE LINKS https://www.instagram.com/doireallyhatemen/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558725612414 www.tiktok.com/@angallanburns www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns e-mail ang@doireallyhatemen.com ABOUT THE PODCAST Do I Really Hate Men? Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an ‘I hate men’ podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.  This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories. My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain,  lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed. NOTE – I need you to know that I don’t hate men! It’s important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.  ABOUT THE HOST Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.  Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.  With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience. 

This week Ang is joined by Karen Shaw, a transformational life, parenting and relationship coach, alignment therapist NLP practitioner as well as being the author of the number one best selling book, ‘Parenting Magic’. Karen is the mother of three boys, all of which have various disabilities. Struggling to understand how she could help them better and consumed by negative thoughts following her divorce, Karen set out to change herself and change the life of her boys. In this interview with Ang, Karen outlines her incredible journey of self learning and how she developed and learned the tools needed to give herself and her children the best life they could have. KEY TAKEAWAYS Karen has three sons, all of which have various disabilities. Once she realised that they were not thriving in the way they should be, she set out to find ways in which she herself could help them, as she explains to Ang. When Karen went through her divorce she was overcome with negative emotions toward her husband. She discusses with Ang how she came to the realisation that this was destructive behaviour and the tools and methods she adopted to help her overcome it. Once Karen had implemented the various methods of self help she learned at home, she was struck by how noticeable the effects of them were to visiting friends and family members. Realising that she could help others, she decided to write a book. She explains the process to Ang. Karen explains the concept of ‘Ditch the Don’t’ to Ang. And how making simple changes in the way we communicate to each other can have immense positive repercussions.   BEST MOMENTS “Once you’ve got the title of ‘parent’ you’ve got it for life.” “Trying to suppress your emotions is like trying to keep a beach ball underwater. It’s eventually going to burst back up with force.” “Our thoughts become beliefs which then become behaviours. That’s why it’s so important to take control of our thoughts before they take control of our behaviours.”   EPISODE LINKS https://amzn.to/2NVvjeA - Book Parenting Magic - A New Approach to Behaviour & Communication      https://www.facebook.com/groups/666828834467255   https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenlizshaw/   https://parentingmagic.co.uk/   email karenlizshaw@gmail.com https://www.instagram.com/doireallyhatemen/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558725612414 www.tiktok.com/@angallanburns www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns e-mail ang@doireallyhatemen.com                   ABOUT THE PODCAST   Do I Really Hate Men?   Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an ‘I hate men’ podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.   This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories.   My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain,  lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed.   NOTE – I need you to know that I don’t hate men! It’s important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.   ABOUT THE HOST   Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.   Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.   With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience.

The week marks the 20th episode of the podcast and Ang is feeling incredibly proud of herself, and rightly so, as most podcasts don’t make it past episode 8. To celebrate this achievement Ang is looking back over the last 19 episodes and sharing some of her personal highlights. And to further celebrate, Ang has a big announcement she wants to share with you all.  KEY TAKEAWAYS After 19 episodes, Ang has had some fabulous guests, feedback and reviews. She recaps her favourite moments from her previous shows for those who want to listen again and those who are new to the show.  For a while now Ang has been working on a divorce coaching programme. Now complete, she shares the outline of the ‘A to A Divorce Success Path’. A way to unlock your new beginning and transform your life after divorce.  One of the steps in Ang’s new programme is ‘Personal Advancement.’ When a marriage becomes stale we can find ourselves lost and no longer moving forward in our own life. But, as Ang explains, with the pain of divorce also comes an opportunity to begin your journey again.  It’s also normal for you to lose your authentic self when your mind is overrun by negative thoughts about your failing relationship. Luckily, this is another step in Ang’s 6 step programme. Here, she gives a brief overview of how to regain your authenticity.  BEST MOMENTS “Not everyone will be in your book of life for the whole book, some people will come in for a chapter, some will be a main character.” “When you’re going through a divorce you don’t feel like you’re in control. So how do you get that control back?” “You might think that you're stuck. But this is not true, you have the strength to get out and the strength to live a beautiful life.” EPISODE LINKS https://www.instagram.com/doireallyhatemen/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558725612414 www.tiktok.com/@angallanburns www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns e-mail ang@doireallyhatemen.com ABOUT THE PODCAST Do I Really Hate Men? Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an ‘I hate men’ podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.  This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories. My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain,  lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed. NOTE – I need you to know that I don’t hate men! It’s important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.  ABOUT THE HOST Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.  Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.  With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience. 

This week Ang is addressing the topic of access to your children and when it can turn sour. One of the hardest things about divorce is having a third party decide when you can and can’t see your own children. However, the court's decision is only the start of the painful process of access. Not only does it have a profound emotional impact on your children but it also deeply affects the parents, that can, and oftentimes does, lead to people making bad or selfish decisions. But, Ang is here to help guide you through this difficult time and explain how you can be the parent your child needs.  KEY TAKEAWAYS Most women that go through a divorce will unfortunately hear their children say “I hate you, I want to live with dad.” But what is the true meaning behind these words and what is the best thing you can do to help your children? Ang explains.  When a court rules on which parent gets to see the children at what times it doesn’t always have the insight the parents do. This can lead to parents withholding access of their children to their ex partner. Ang explains why this is sometimes a necessary evil.  However, some parents can use their children as weapons and withhold access to their ex partners for cruel and malicious purposes. Ang recounts when this happened to her and the fallout is caused.  Don’t underestimate your children's ability to see what is happening to you during this hard time. As much as you are mindful of their emotions, they are mindful of yours. Ang shares an incredible story of how her toddler comforted her during a particularly hard time.  BEST MOMENTS “Watching your child distressed and with tears in their eyes is something no parent wants to see.” “Your child’s emotional wellbeing is more important than any court order.” “Try to balance the good with the bad and try to keep your deep dark emotions controlled.” EPISODE LINKS https://www.instagram.com/doireallyhatemen/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558725612414 www.tiktok.com/@angallanburns www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns e-mail ang@doireallyhatemen.com ABOUT THE PODCAST Do I Really Hate Men? Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an ‘I hate men’ podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.  This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories. My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain,  lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed. NOTE – I need you to know that I don’t hate men! It’s important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.  ABOUT THE HOST Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.  Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.  With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience. 

This week on the show Ang is joined by Shez Skeikh, father, content creator, breathwork coach with over 1 million followers on social media. When Shez welcomed his son into the world he was overjoyed, however, two short weeks later he suddenly found himself as a single parent. But, determined to make everything ok for his son, he began a journey of reflection and self healing. This new mindset then led him to begin his TikTok account WANAP TV where he shares messages of positivity and love.  KEY TAKEAWAYS During Covid Shez wanted to do something to help those nearest and dearest to him to make them feel a little more positive. This led him to start creating content for instagram, but he soon realised that his message was travelling further than he intended. He talks about his mission and how it has grown.  Shez’s initial joy at becoming a father was marred by the fact he became a single parent just two weeks after his son was born. This was an incredibly challenging time for him. He talks about how he overcame these challenges and how he now feels looking back on that time.  Ang and Shez discuss the importance of having the best relationship possible with your ex partner for the benefit of your children and, an important question you should ask yourself, do you hate your ex more than you love your children? The trauma of divorce is something that will stay with you for a long time. However, it will stay with you even longer if you try and brush it under the carpet. Shez talks about the importance of working on yourself and shares his best practices.  BEST MOMENTS “We need to spread positive energy and love because, right now, the world is crying out for it.” “Sometimes you need to remind yourself that you're ok and you can keep going.” “What are you doing that you could be doing differently?”  EPISODE LINKS https://www.instagram.com/wanaptv/ https://www.tiktok.com/@wanaptv Visit www.wanapbreath.work for breathwork classes. https://www.instagram.com/doireallyhatemen/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558725612414 www.tiktok.com/@angallanburns www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns e-mail ang@doireallyhatemen.com ABOUT THE PODCAST Do I Really Hate Men? Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an ‘I hate men’ podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.  This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories. My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain,  lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed. NOTE – I need you to know that I don’t hate men! It’s important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.  ABOUT THE HOST Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.  Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.  With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience. 

This week on the show Ang is continuing to share her wisdom on the subject of children and divorce. Instinct tells us to put our children first when going through a divorce. As a parent you want to shield them from everything, but this can come at a cost. In this episode, Ang shares her insights on how best to be there for your children, and it is by taking care of yourself first and foremost. Because, as Ang explains, by looking after yourself you can look after your children which encourages them to look after themselves and you.  KEY TAKEAWAYS It is the most natural thing in the world to want to spend time with your children after going through a divorce, but it is also vitally important to spend time by yourself. Ang talks about her approach to this and tells you how to spot opportunities that you might not have otherwise seen.  Divorce is a big event in anyone's life and the emotions that come with it can easily amplify the significance of all other problems you are facing. Ang’s stepmom shared some words of wisdom with her that helped her realise this and prioritise, and Ang is about to share them with you.   Spending time with your children is incredibly important, but what’s more important is being able to communicate effectively with them. Ang shares her top tips on how to communicate with the younger generation. While you’re busy looking out for your children, what you might miss is that they are looking out for you too. For this reason, Ang explains why it’s crucial to show your children that you are not invincible and how being vulnerable around them will encourage them to be vulnerable around you.   BEST MOMENTS “The flipside of spending time with your children is that you also need to give yourself time too.” “It can be extremely difficult to communicate when there is friction.” “It's an essential part of parenting that you look after yourself too. You can only be the best for someone else if you are the best version of you.” EPISODE LINKS https://www.instagram.com/doireallyhatemen/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558725612414 www.tiktok.com/@angallanburns www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns e-mail ang@doireallyhatemen.com ABOUT THE PODCAST Do I Really Hate Men? Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an ‘I hate men’ podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.  This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories. My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain,  lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed. NOTE – I need you to know that I don’t hate men! It’s important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.  ABOUT THE HOST Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.  Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.  With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience. 

This week on the show Ang is joined by Miss Amber Jayne, an early childhood whisperer, who has been operating preschools in northern California for almost 20 years. Amber was married at the age of 18. However, she had a gut feeling that her relationship wasn’t going to be the fairy tale she had always envisioned. Despite this she pushed forward with the hope that things would get better in time. Unfortunately, they didn’t. When she was diagnosed with breast cancer at the age of 31 she realised that you only get one shot at life and decided to get hers back. KEY TAKEAWAYS Amber was married at the age of 18, and like so many, looked past the red flags and thought ‘things will get better.’ However, as her marriage went on, things got worse. She discusses the cycle of abuse that led her to get divorced 17 years later.  At the age of 31 Amber was diagnosed with breast cancer, she prayed that this might be a blessing in disguise and make her husband change his ways, but he remained the same. Amber explains how this was the moment she began to come to terms with the reality of her relationship.  Amber had four children with her ex husband, but what she discovered is that he used them as pawns to manipulate her and their relationship. She talks about how she finally realised this and the steps she took to protect her children.  Amber signed up to the school of ‘Stay busy’ in order to help heal from her divorce. She outlines the positives of this approach and how it led her to opening and owning a number of preschools in northern California.  BEST MOMENTS “It is possible, unfortunately, to see red flags and still love somebody.” “If you’re in a toxic relationship and you’re staying for the kids then you’re doing them a disservice, because you are falling apart and you’re no good for anybody.” “Making the decision to get divorced and then to go through with it is life changing, but the real change only comes when you begin to work on yourself.” EPISODE LINKS www.thelovingstartway.com @thelovestartway https://www.instagram.com/doireallyhatemen/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558725612414 www.tiktok.com/@angallanburns www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns e-mail ang@doireallyhatemen.com   ABOUT THE PODCAST Do I Really Hate Men? Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an ‘I hate men’ podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.  This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories. My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain,  lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed. NOTE – I need you to know that I don’t hate men! It’s important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.  ABOUT THE HOST Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.  Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.  With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience. 

This week on the show Ang is tackling the subject of parenting through divorce. It is most people's conception that the way to guide your children through divorce is by smothering them with love. However, through Ang’s own experience with her two boys, she has found that this is simply not the case. In this episode Ang shares her lessons learned and top tips and tricks to help you help your children as they navigate the turbulent waters of divorce.  KEY TAKEAWAYS Society labels children whose parents have divorced as those who have come from a “broken home”. However, as Ang explains, through her own experience, a broken home is not what society thinks it is.  It is vitally important to care and protect your children during and after divorce, but this might come from ‘direct parenting’. Ang talks about how being the best version of you is the best thing you can do for them. After a divorce most children feel like they’ve suddenly got less in their lives. Ang addresses this by sharing and explaining her number one tip - be present.  Finally, Ang has some good news to share as a result of the success of the podcast.  BEST MOMENTS “Parenting is without doubt the hardest job you will ever love.” “Your children don’t need you to save them, they need to watch you save yourself.” “You might not be perfect, but striving for it everyday is a gift you give your children for life.”   EPISODE LINKS https://www.instagram.com/doireallyhatemen/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558725612414 www.tiktok.com/@angallanburns www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns e-mail ang@doireallyhatemen.com ABOUT THE PODCAST Do I Really Hate Men? Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an ‘I hate men’ podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.  This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories. My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain,  lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed. NOTE – I need you to know that I don’t hate men! It’s important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.  ABOUT THE HOST Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.  Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.  With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience.