In todays episode, Betsy is back on the show and has updates on living, dreaming and getting older.

Transcript:

Betsy:

Welcome to the Art of Living Big podcast. My name is Betsy Peik. I’m an author, a speaker, and a trainer of NLP and hypnotherapy. And I’m focused on helping you understand and design your life with the power of the subconscious. This podcast is designed to help you think differently about what could be possible for your life. Now, let’s go live big.

Betsy:

Hello, fellow adventurers. It feels so funny to be back. It feels like. How does it feel? It feels sort of like when you haven’t seen a friend in a long time and you pull into the coffee shop and you’re like, oh, my gosh, that’s what it feels like. And also a little nervous. I’m a little nervous. Hi. Hi.

Betsy:

Welcome. Hi, everybody. Any new folks that are listening? Hello and welcome. I have been doing this show for seven years and I took a short hiatus. I don’t know, maybe like seven weeks or so. If it was seven weeks, that would be kind of cool because I’ve been doing this for seven years, but I’m so excited to be back and I’m so grateful for the time. I have to tell you, the first couple of weeks, I was like, this feels like such a release, like such a relief to not have to be thinking and coming up with stuff and really fitting the recording into my schedule because it had gotten really busy and so just having that space. But then the longer time went on, the more I was like, oh, I really want to come back.

Betsy:

I really want to connect with everybody and share some thoughts and things that are going on. So I have so many things to tell you and some magical, wild things to tell you, too. So if you’ve never been here before on the show or you’ve just listened to a few episodes, we’re a little sciency and a little believe in the magic of the spirit. So a little touch of both to kind of bring some balance into this experience. So, as I always say, take what works for you, discard the rest. I am on the journey with you and I am learning along the way. And so, so many of the stories and things that I bring to the show are really things that I have been learning, things that I’Ve been experiencing. All right, so let’s kind of dive in here.

Betsy:

I’m getting settled in my new house, so if you’ve been here for a little bit, you know, I bought a new old house, like almost a hundred year old house back in May. I moved in in June, and there was a million things to fix and do and I feel like I’m finally getting a little settled. Do you guys know who she did? I should look. Let me look. Hang on. Okay, so she’s a film producer, and she has made a lot of movies that you’ve loved, like the holiday father of the Bride. Okay, so when you think about that, you probably have the father of the bride like house in your mind, right? Or if you watched the holiday, did you guys ever watch that? It’s like one of my favorite Christmas movies, the Holiday. You remember the interiors of the houses.

Betsy:

So the holiday, they switch houses, right? It’s Cameron Diaz and whatever her name is. Sorry, but the point is the interiors. So as I have been putting my house together and I’m nowhere close, but I’m keeping Nancy Meyer’s aesthetic in. It’s actually. I kind of feel like maybe it’s starting to work. I’m typically not a super great decorator, but I do my best. So Google Nancy Meyer’s aesthetic and you’ll see what I mean. But with the holidays doing all that layering and different textures and highs and lows, and it’s actually coming out and looks really, really pretty.

Betsy:

So it’s been a really fun season to be in the new house, the new old house, and getting to set it up and decorate it. If you’re here because you have been following along with my reels recently or just kind of recently found me because of my program navigate, I’ll tell you that this past weekend, my ex husband. So I am married, and I’ve been married almost eleven years. My ex husband, I got divorced when my daughter was four and she’s about to turn 22. So he was bringing her out on Saturday or Sunday to look for an apartment. And they were looking all in, like, the area near my house, which was great. Is great. And so they stopped by.

Betsy:

So my ex husband hadn’t been to my new house because there was no reason to. Since my daughter’s grown, it’s not like he’s picking her up on the weekends or anything. And he was so excited to come in and he was like, this is so cool. It’s so charming. It’s got a lot of little quirky things and nooks and crannies. Because it’s an old house. The reason I tell you that is because he’s my ex husband. He gave me a big hug, happy holidays.

Betsy:

Walked all around the house, checked everything out. I think he opened the refrigerator, said hi to my husband, gave me a big hug goodbye. And I’m so grateful for that. I’m grateful for that. Setting up my life in a way that that could be my experience with him instead of conflict or feeling weird about it. I was actually so excited that he liked the house odly. I was like, oh, yeah, I’m so glad he liked it. It made me really happy.

Betsy:

So, anyway, little story about the holidays in my house. Okay, so here’s another big thing that’s been happening, like, the last four months or so. I am going to tell you something, and you have to decide for you if this is right. So I’m not a doctor, and I’m not making any kind of medical advice to you, but I realized I was having a lot of weird symptoms. I was talking to a girlfriend, and I was saying, like, I have weird things that I don’t have. I’m talking about perimenopause. Okay? So I’m 52, so I’m like, I have weird things. I know.

Betsy:

Absolutely. I had weight gain from perimenopause, and I think I had felt kind of low. And I think that I was starting to feel like I’m kind of low. Like, my mood is low and almost, I’m going to say, like, a sense of apathy about things. It really made it hard to get excited about work or even doing things with friends. I just didn’t care. And I was finding myself trying so hard to conserve my energy because I felt like it was such a limited resource. So if friends would reach out and say, hey, let’s jump on a zoom and say, hi, I would be like, I can’t.

Betsy:

I just felt like I didn’t have anything else to give, and I was so exhausted. And maybe 2018, 2019. I had went through a period of. A lot of exhaustion, which, looking back now, I know that was my perimenopause, like, kind of kicking in. And, I mean, I couldn’t figure it out. Every day at, like, 02:00 I’d have to sleep. I was so tired, and I was trying to figure it out. I got health coaching.

Betsy:

I did all the things. Okay, all right, so fast forward. Recently, I’m talking to a girlfriend, and I’m like, I have these weird things. One of those things is my ears were itching, like my ear canal. I know that’s weird. I’d wake up in the middle of the night, and I felt like my ear was wet. I had just taken a shower, and I do not have night sweats. I don’t have any of that stuff.

Betsy:

The normal stuff that you would think about with perimenopause. I don’t have. So it just never occurred to me that this was, like, a big thing in my life, right? My cycle is pretty regular. I mean, off and on right now, but in the beginning when all this was going on, so I was talking to a girlfriend, and I was like, I’m having this weird things, like my ears, which is a strange thing to tell, but I was having a friend conversation, and then she was asking me, what about this? What about this? I was like, yeah, what about this? Oh, my God. What about this? Yes. And she was like, those are all perimenopause symptoms. Like, obviously, you know, you’re in perimenopause. You’re 52.

Betsy:

And I was like, I think that I knew that perimenopause happened, and I think I knew that I was at the age, but I don’t know that I thought it was happening to me. I know this sounds strange, but maybe this is you, too, right? And so there are so many signs that you don’t even notice, like, things you don’t even realize are perimenopause. So your ears doing that is actually a low estrogen thing. Waking up in the middle of the night. I mean, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve talked about waking up in the middle of the night. I wake up at, like, 03:00 a.m. And people have messaged me and told me all kinds of hacks, and I’ve done things that I think have helped a little bit. One of those things was, like, taking magnesium and vitamin D in the morning.

Betsy:

I was really trying. Anyway, my girlfriend’s like, yeah, it’s perimenopause. Get some hormone replacement therapy. Now, I remember years ago, that was a really controversial thing. Like, there was a lot of data on it that wasn’t safe. Anyway, what I found for me was that a lot of that data, don’t, please. I love you so much, but don’t message me and tell me not to take it. I have done my own research, and I’ve talked to my doctor.

Betsy:

So do your own research. Talk to your doctor. And if it doesn’t align, don’t do it. But I will tell you that it changed my life. It changed my life. I’ve been taking it now for, like, four months. I have not felt this much energy in years and years. I feel so good all day long.

Betsy:

My ears don’t itch. I sleep like a baby. I mean, I sleep all night long. Low estrogen will wake you up. And I am feeling so great, and honestly, within, like, two days, I felt great. I went to a place online, and this isn’t an ad, I don’t get anything, but I went to a place online that I took a test. They asked me a bunch of questions. I got to meet with a doctor, and then they prescribed it,