Podcast #666NOT GETTING STUCK IN THE PAST (OR HELD BACK BY IT)Are you tired of replaying past mistakes or missed opportunities in your mind? In this episode, we uncover why so many of us get stuck in the past—and more importantly, how to break free. You’ll discover practical strategies to release regret, reframe old experiences, and finally step into the present with confidence and clarity. Say goodbye to the weight of yesterday and hello to a future you actually want.Have you ever caught yourself thinking about something that happened months—or even years—ago, and suddenly it feels like it’s happening all over again? What if I told you that the way you’re holding onto the past might actually be keeping you from the life you’re meant to live right now? In today’s episode, we’re diving into how to stop letting your past control your present, the subtle traps most people don’t even notice, and a few simple—but powerful—shifts that can help you finally move forward. You’re going to want to stick around for this.The number one reason people get stuck in the past is unresolved meaning — they haven’t made peace with what happened, so their mind keeps replaying it, searching for clarity, fairness, or closure.When an event still feels unfair, embarrassing, shameful, or like a missed opportunity, the brain loops it, trying to “fix” it in hindsight. Instead of integrating it as part of their story, they resist it — and that resistance keeps them stuck.In other words: people get trapped in the past not because of what happened, but because of the story they’re still telling themselves about it.Why We Get Stuck in the PastThe Psychology Behind It* Our brains are wired to remember negative experiences more vividly than positive ones—a survival mechanism called negativity bias. It’s designed to keep us safe by learning from mistakes.* The problem: While this served our ancestors well, in modern life it can keep us replaying old pain instead of moving forward.* Example: You might constantly think about a failed relationship or missed opportunity, even if holding onto it serves no purpose today. BECAUSE YOU HAVEN'T FOUND OR CREATED THE MEANING.Why People Get Stuck in the PastCauses (Why it happens)* Unresolved meaning: The brain hasn’t decided what the past event means yet, so it keeps replaying it.* Shame or regret loops: Holding onto “I should have” or “I shouldn’t have.”* Desire for fairness or control: Wanting to rewrite an outcome that feels unfair or unfinished.* Fear of repeating mistakes: Believing “if I keep thinking about it, I’ll protect myself next time.”* Identity attachment: The past becomes part of who they think they are instead of something that simply happened.Mindset Shifts (How to reframe it)* From replay → rewrite: “I can’t change the past, but I can change the story I tell about it.”* From regret → resource: “This experience can fuel my wisdom, not my shame.”* From punishment → permission: “I don’t have to keep punishing myself for something that’s already over.”* From stuck → stepping stone: “The past is not an anchor; it’s a platform I can launch from.”* From identity → information: “What happened is part of my story, but it does not define me.”Action Steps (How to move forward)* Name the story: Write down the narrative you’re telling about the event. Then ask, “Is this story helping me move forward or holding me back?”* Find the lesson: Pull out one piece of wisdom or resilience you gained — even if it’s just survival or strength.* Forgive yourself: Release the illusion that you could have known then what you know now.* Declare completion: Create a ritual (journaling, prayer, or even saying out loud: “That chapter is closed. I choose to write the next one.”)* Anchor in the present: Practice grounding yourself in what’s true now: your growth, your opportunities, your choices today.TranscriptEmailDownloadNew Tab666 without intro raw===TRISH: [00:00:00 ] Have you ever caught yourself thinking about somethin...