Podcast #670HOW TO GET PEOPLE TO REALLY LISTEN TO YOUDo you ever feel invisible in conversations, overlooked in meetings, or ignored on social media — even when you know your ideas have value? In this episode, we dive into the art and psychology of being heard. You’ll learn why confidence alone isn’t enough, how to stop people from talking over you, what to do when someone takes credit for your ideas, and how to get the respect of others — both online and in real life.We’ll also explore leadership and parenting strategies, showing you why what’s taught is caught and how modeling behavior earns influence faster than any words ever could. Tune in for actionable tips, mindset shifts, and ready-to-use scripts that make your voice impossible to ignore.The pain of being talked over isn’t just emotional — it’s deeply biological. Your body reacts as if your social survival or competence is being challenged, which is why it feels so visceral and upsetting.Why It Feels Terrible to Be Ignored or Interrupted:* Threat to self-worth: Feels like your ideas and presence don’t matter.* Loss of control: You can’t fully express yourself or guide the conversation.* Social stress: Triggers tension, frustration, and a fight-or-flight response.* Status signal: Feels like a demotion in the group hierarchy.* Compounded impact: Repeated experiences create resentment, self-doubt, and anxiety about speaking up.In short: Being talked over feels like your voice—and your value—is being dismissed.Why Being Heard Feels Good* Validation of Identity: Being listened to signals that your ideas and presence matter.* Sense of Control: You get to fully express yourself and guide how your message is received.* Social Reward: Listening triggers positive social feedback and strengthens connections.* Confidence Boost: Each time someone acknowledges your voice, it reinforces self-worth and reduces internal doubt.The Psychology of Being Heard* Why some people naturally command attention.* The difference between talking louder and communicating with presence.* The role of self-confidence + self-respect in how others respond to you.Why Some People Naturally Command Attention1. Confidence and Presence* People who are grounded in themselves speak with certainty.* Their body language, tone, and pacing communicate calm authority.* Confidence signals that their ideas are worth listening to.2. Clear, Concise Communication* They don’t ramble or over-explain.* Their points are easy to follow and impactful, making it effortless for others to pay attention.3. Active Listening First* They listen before speaking, making others feel seen.* People naturally reciprocate attention when they feel acknowledged.4. Emotional Intelligence* They read the room and adjust their approach based on others’ reactions.* They remain composed under pressure, which draws focus rather than distractions.5. Authenticity and Integrity* Their words match their actions, which builds trust.* People pay attention when they sense authenticity—they feel safe and inspired by consistency.6. Strategic Use of Pauses and Timing* They know when to speak and when to pause.* Silence before speaking gives weight to their words; well-timed statements land more powerfully.7. Energy and Engagement* Their energy draws people in — not by being loud, but by being present, intentional, and animated.* They make others feel included and important while commanding attention themselves.In short: People who are naturally heard combine confidence, clarity, authenticity, and attentiveness. They don’t demand attention—they earn it through presence, integrity, and emotional intelligence.3–5 Habits That Instantly Make You Command Attention1. Own Your Presence* Stand or sit tall, maintain eye contact, and speak with steady confidence.* Your body language signals authority before a word is even spoken.2. Speak Clearly and Concisely* Make your points short, direct, and impactful.