A post I shared went viral on "roommate marriages" and it highlighted the same core pains from over 400,000 men: no intimacy, eggshell communication, codependency, betrayal wounds, mental health strain, financial/family entanglements, and deep isolation.

When you're dysregulated, you can't desire. Logic can't land when emotions flood the brain. And people-pleasing feels "kind" or loving until you realize it's just self-abandonment at it's core. Stay here long enough and you'll start calling a war "gender" that the other side is the problem - when it's really nervous system (hers) vs nervous system (yours)  fighting for safety in the only (toxic/dysfunctional) ways they know how.

In this episode, I break down the top common themes I noticed in these types of relationships and give you a nervous-system-aware playbook that leads with curiosity over defensiveness, boundaries over control, and language that reveals AND rewires beliefs - thus hopefully… unblocking your bs ;)  Here's what we get into:

• Why "roommate marriages" happen and how to restore safety and intimacy (that's not just physical)

• Stonewalling/defensiveness decoded (and the "fix/advice/listen?" script)

• Codependency vs care: the exact line where kindness becomes self-abandonment

• Betrayal repair basics: trust yourself first, then rebuild together

• When to stay, when to go, and how to do the consequence math

• Why men struggle to share and how to get real support that works
  
  

Men - if you're ready to overhaul your nervous system so you stop feeling stuck and like a ghost in your own home/marriage/life?

Apply to Healthy Men-tality and let's see if it's the right next step for you on your journey to stop destructive or unhealthy cycles in your relationships: www.UnblockYourBS.com/healthymen  or DM me on Tik Tok HEAL

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