Key idea 2

You can’t stop walking on eggshells if they’re taped to your feet.

We often say that someone who’s very sensitive to other people’s moods or reactions is walking on eggshells(to be very careful or cautious in order to avoid upsetting someone or causing conflict). In her own words, Brené felt like the eggshells were “duct-taped(fixed) to the soles of her shoes.” She was hypersensitive to the world around her – so attuned(understand) to what might go wrong that it felt excruciating(extremely difficult to bear).

She tried drowning out those feelings through partying, smoking, and drinking. And while all of that did succeed in numbing(make something less sensitive) her, it also meant the world got blurry. She could no longer observe what was going on inside of people. She was fearful and anxious, and was so scared of feeling pain that she chased experiences that made her feel even more pain. She was, as she says, “taking the edge off”( make something less intense) through alcohol. But taking that edge off was also muffling(silence) her magic – her superpower.

Recognizing this, with the help of a good therapist, Brené started a long, hard process of regaining her edge(regaining her power). She stopped drinking, and started learning how to feel again, how to embrace(understand and accept) pain and messy vulnerability and feelings that are not exactly pleasant or easy to experience.

Today, Brené values her sensitivity to emotions. It shows her where her boundaries are. It teaches her what she needs. It allows her to tune into the people around her(focusing her attention on the emotions, thoughts, and behaviors of the people in her environment.). And it’s fueled quite an extraordinary career.

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Atlas of the heart

 ✅sensitive : حساس

 ✅walking on eggshells : محتاط بودن

 ✅duct-taped: چسبیده

 ✅hypersensitive : خیلی حساس

 ✅attuned : آگاه

 ✅excruciating : طاقت فرسا

 ✅numbing : بی حس کردن

 ✅blurry : تار و مبهم

 ✅fearful : ترسیده

 ✅taking the edge off: کم کردن شدت

 ✅muffling: خفه کردن و از بین بردن

 ✅superpower : قدرت ماورایی

 ✅regaining her edge : دوباره به دست آوردن قدرت

 ✅embrace : پذیرفتن

 ✅vulnerability : آسیب پذیری

✅Fuel: سوخت، برانگیختن

✅Extraordinary: فوق العاده

✅Career: حرفه

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