Ask for help when you need it, and learn to give it in return.

It can be hard to ask for help. Cultural taboos(something that is considered unacceptable or offensive in a particular culture), expensive therapists, and a lack of availability are all barriers(obstacle) to seeking professional mental help services. But it can sometimes be especially hard to ask for help from the people that we know.

That’s because, sadly, depression often makes us push people away when we need them most. It’s very common to believe that showing people around you that you’re struggling is burdensome(hard to bear). You then withdraw(distance) from people, believing that your depressed self will only bring other people down(make them sad).

But here’s something powerful to remember the next time you feel that way: the positive effects of social support go both ways(the benefits of providing support are not just limited to the person receiving the support. The person providing the support can also experience positive effect). Studies indicate(show) that when someone provides somebody else with even low-level social support, it changes their brain chemistry in such a way that they themselves experience positive emotions, like courage and hope. It can even help them with the harmful effects of trauma and chronic(lasting for a long time) stress. Yes, that’s right – you’re doing yourself and your loved ones a good thing when you let them help you when you need it.

Knowing this, don’t be afraid to call your loved ones when you’re down. Human connection is one of the most powerful tools we have for maintaining our mental relationship, and social isolation only makes depression worse.

It might be hard at first. You might not feel like you have much to say or anything at all. That’s OK. Share whatever thoughts you can manage, or just be with people, watching them or taking a quiet walk together. The research tells us that simply being with others who care is still helpful, even when we don’t feel like being around others.

📚هایلایت ۸ خلاصه کتاب 

Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?

✅In return: در عوض

✅Cultural taboos: تابوهای فرهنگی

✅Therapist: تراپیست

✅Lack: فقدان

✅Availability: در دسترس بودن

✅Barrier: مانع

✅Seek: جستجو کردن

✅Sadly: متاسفانه

✅Depression: افسردگی

✅Make sb do sth:کسی رو مجبور به انجام کاری کردن

✅Push away: دور کردن

✅Common: رایج

✅Struggle: سختی کشیدن

✅Burdensome: سخت

✅Withdraw: فاصله گرفتن

✅Bring sb down: کسی رو ناراحت کردن

✅Positive effects: اثرات مثبت

✅Social support: حمایت اجتماعی

✅To go both ways: دو طرفه بودن

✅Indicate: نشان دادن

✅Chemistry: شیمی

✅Positive emotions: احساسات مثبت

✅Courage: شهامت

✅Harmful effects: اثرات منفی

✅Trauma: ضربه

✅Chronic: مزمن

✅Human connection: ارتباط انسانی

✅Maintain: حفظ کردن، نگه داشتن

✅Social isolation: انزوای اجتماعی

✅Make sth worse: چیزی رو بدتر کردن

✅Quiet: آرام

✅Simply: صرفا

✅To be around sb: پیش کسی بودن

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