Military veterans and former entrepreneurs report similar feelings.

If your identity is wrapped up in a belief like “I’m a great soldier,” what happens when your period of service ends? For many business owners,

their identity is something along the lines of “I’m the CEO” or “I’m the founder.” If you have spent every waking moment working on your

business, how will you feel after you sell the company?

The key to mitigating these losses of identity is to redefine yourself such that you get to keep important aspects of your identity even if your particular role changes.

“I’m an athlete” becomes “I’m the type of person who is mentally tough and loves a physical challenge.”

“I’m a great soldier” transforms into “I’m the type of person who is disciplined, reliable, and great on a team.”

“I’m the CEO” translates to “I’m the type of person who builds and creates things.”

When chosen effectively, an identity can be flexible rather than brittle. Like water flowing around an obstacle, your identity works with the changing circumstances rather than against them.

The following quote from the Tao Te Ching encapsulates the ideas perfectly:

Men are born soft and supple;

dead, they are stiff and hard.

Plants are born tender and pliant;

dead, they are brittle and dry.

Thus whoever is stiff and inflexible

is a disciple of death.

Whoever is soft and yielding

is a disciple of life.

The hard and stiff will be broken.

The soft and supple will prevail.

—LAO TZU

Habits deliver numerous benefits, but the downside is that they can lock us into our previous patterns of thinking and acting—even when the world is shifting around us. Everything is impermanent. Life is

constantly changing, so you need to periodically check in to see if your old habits and beliefs are still serving you.

A lack of self-awareness is poison. Reflection and review is the antidote.

Chapter Summary

The upside of habits is that we can do things without thinking.

The downside is that we stop paying attention to little errors.

Habits + Deliberate Practice = Mastery

Reflection and review is a process that allows you to remain conscious of your performance over time.

The tighter we cling to an identity, the harder it becomes to grow beyond it.

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✅ military: نظامی

✅ veteran: کهنه کار

✅ former: سابق

✅ entrepreneur: کارآفرین

✅ wrapped up: تنیده شده

✅ belief: باور

✅ period of service: مدت خدمت

✅ along the lines of: مشابه

✅ founder: موسس

✅ mitigate: کم کردن شدت، تسکین دادن

✅ loss: فقدان

✅ redefine: مجددا تعریف کردن

✅ aspect: جنبه

✅ particular: خاص

✅ role: نقش

✅ tough: سرسخت

✅ transform into: تبدیل شدن به

✅ disciplined: منظم

✅ reliable: قابل اتکا، قابل اطمینان

✅ effectively: به خوبی

✅ brittle: inflexible: انعطاف ناپذیر

✅ flow: جریان داشتن

✅ obstacle: مانع

✅ circumstances: شرایط

✅ quote: نقل قول

✅ encapsulate: خلاصه ی چیزی را گفتن

✅ supple: نرم و انعطاف پذیر

✅ stiff: سفت

✅ tender: pliant: نرم

✅ disciple: پیرو

✅ numerous: بیشمار

✅ downside: عیب

✅ upside: فایده

✅ pattern: الگو

✅ impermanent: transient: موقتی

✅ periodically: بطور دائم

✅ self-awareness: خود آگاهی

✅ cling: چنگ زدن، چسبیدن

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