Eight Dates Day 6
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Chapter 5
Decisions about family and children are serious and need to be discussed extensively(in great detail).
One topic that can be a real deal-breaker(a factor that is significant enough to cause someone to reject
something) for a couple is whether or not to have children. This can also be a bank-breaker(extremely
expensive). Raising a child to age 18 in the United States costs on average $233,610.
But the potential problems of raising a child don’t stop there. John Gottman, one of the authors,
observed a 67 percent drop in marital happiness in couples who had a child within four years of getting
married. And this marital happiness doesn’t come back until after the child has left the nest (left home)–
if the parents haven’t already divorced by this point. So, what sort of recommendations(suggestions) can
prospective(likely to happen in the future) or current parents follow if they want to avoid this?
Firstly, regardless of (without considering, without taking into account ) your gender or whether you’re in a
hetero or same-sex relationship, both partners need to involve themselves in the pregnancy and birth of
the child. Studies of heterosexual relationships show that when the father is involved in the pregnancy,
there is less of a chance of conflict and more chances for continued marital happiness.
Secondly, parents need to prioritize(organize according to importance) their intimacy with each other. This
involves making sure you connect regularly, whether through date nights or simply continued
communication. Raising children is stressful, and you need to communicate and avoid withdrawing from
each other(distancing emotionally or physically from another person). With this in mind, it’s time to plan out
your next date night. This one will be all about family and children and should take place somewhere
frequented(regularly visited) by children. Consider a public playground or a family-friendly restaurant.
The questions you and your partner should ask each other on this date are probably quite obvious(clear).
The elephant in the room(something that everyone is aware of but no one wants to address or talk about
openly) is, of course, your idea of the perfect family. Does it include children? If so, how many? What sort
of problems might you encounter(face) while raising children? How can you prevent or tackle(solve)
those problems?
If you’ve already decided you don’t want children, that doesn’t mean you should skip this date
completely. Family involves more than just children, after all. In this case, you might consider asking
about your partner’s closest family. What can you do to strengthen (make something stronger) your
relationship with this family? Keep in mind this might be relatives or friends.
📚هایلایت قسمت 6 خلاصه کتاب Eight dates 📚
✅decision : تصمیم
✅extensively: با جزییات زیاد
✅deal-breaker: بهم زننده
✅significant : مهم
✅enough : کافی
✅bank-breaker: هزینه بر
✅extremely : به شدت
✅expensive : گران
✅potential : احتمالی
✅author : نویسنده
✅observe : مشاهده کردن
✅Leave the nest : ترککردن خانه
✅divorce: طلاق
✅recommendations : توصیه ها
✅suggestions : پیشنهادات
✅prospective : آینده
✅current : فعلی
✅firstly : اولا
✅regardless of: صرفنظر از
✅gender: جنسیت
✅same-sex relationship : روابط همجنس
✅involve: مستلزم بودن
✅pregnancy : حاملگی
✅heterosexual : دگرجنس گرا
✅conflict : تعارض
✅continue : ادامه دادن
✅prioritize : اولیت بندی کردن
✅intimacy : نزدیکی
✅regularly : بطور منظم
✅communication : ارتباط
✅stressful : استرس آور
✅withdrawing: فاصله گرفتن
✅frequent(v): زیاد رفت و آمد کردن
✅obvious : واضح
✅elephant in the room : مسئله ای که نادیده گرفته میشه
✅encounter : روبرو شدن
✅tackle : حل کردن
✅strengthen: قوی کردن
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